Thank you for this website, it may be just the ticket I need before I lose my mind.

My daughter is 24, she lives with a violent guy that was even thrown out of the military for beating his wife senseless. She's lied the past year and said she wasn't seeing him. We just found out that she has been living with him.

We are doing tough love. We miss our 2 year old grandson and are trying to help my grandson's dad get custody of him.

Edited to add that maybe I goofed and maybe this forum isn't about tough love. Is it?

No, this isn't a tough love website... but we do have a nice section for mental health issues. You might find some good advice in there, it would be worth looking into. After all, your daughter must have "issues" or she wouldn't stay and take the b.s. this jerk is handing her.

I wish you all the best, and I hope you find the help you were looking for.

welcome Tarie

although we are primarily a forum for support and information related to neurological issues, yet as you can see by the various forums and topics in our community, we are a multi-faceted place

So, wherever you feel comfortable discussing this serious issue for your daughter and grandchildren is fine

We have the areas suggested by Rogue, and we also have a Children's Health section, especially as the wellbeing of your kids is involved and perhaps others there have experienced or know of similar situations

Even right here has been a good place for you to talk Tarie
I can sense from your post how you must be feeling, and sure understand why! We are here to support you too and I know if anyone has experience or advice to add for you here, they will

again, welcome

Welcome, Tarie!

Everyone here is terrific and I think Chemar gave you some great tips. I support your "tough love" approach with all my heart. If your daughter chooses a life of violence (which will NOT change, no matter what he says), it is my opinion that she does not have the right to put a child in harm's way.

Before disability, I was active in rescue for abused women, and the decision to take back her life is by far the most difficult part.




I'd like to give that guy his own neurological problem (*%#%&$^%#$#@!

Cherman does have some good suggestions.
As a ER Truma nurse i saw far to many daughters like yours being
brought in. It's heartbreaking but i to agree with your tough love.
Hospitals have social worker's who can intervene,perhaps one can
help your son-in-law. No child deserves that,i wish you all the luck
in the world. Many hugs For the hard times.. And many
blessings for the wee one.