There are many people in my life who have turned against me for my stand on many subjects and to belabor them is not going to do me any good. I just say to myself that they were lucky they knew me for as long as they did.

Not ego just the truth. I can be the best friend you could have and I can be the best aquaintance you deserve. Up to you to chose.

You have been a very good friend to me and to all who come here. If the prospect of your condition is that daunting to your wife that she has to make a decision then all you need to worry about is if it is the one she can live with and be happy with.

Your kids will love you all of their lives and that is a great acheivment for anyone to have.

I think you need this place and while I many times don't give the comfort you seek I will always endeavor to give you the truth as I see it.

Do I feel I should do more, well no. I need to keep my own balance at this time in my life and that is what you need to do. Remember the old phrase I used to use. Well it is applicable here.

Take care of YOU and YOURS and all else will fall into place.

Over the years we have both had our ups and downs with this dam disease and I've always tried to be honest from a carepartners point of view. On thing I know for sure is if you don't have a strong marriage going into something like this its going to be very very hard. Even a strong marriage is going to be tested sometimes beyond endurence and back again. For the partner yes there is a sense of sometimes being trapped and having your own life taken away since this disease demands so much from you guys and sooner or later affects those closest to you with and just seems to take on a life of its own leaving everone involved living the disease instead of trying to live with it. Its not easy and takes a lot of patience and understanding on both parts on both sides. The only thing i could say to your wife if I could is what i tell ray> I said i'd love you in sickness and in health NOT JUST AS LONG AS YOUR OKAY. Its tough on a day to day basis when you start thinking of all the things your missing out on but I tend to try and think of all the things I had befroe this and I'd do it all over in a heartbeat. I'd still have my days of feeling trapped but I wouldnt have all the great years to look back on. So maybe let her read this or talk to someone I'm pray its just a bad time she is going through as well cs Weve been going through this over a decade as well and it does get to both of us and some days it just doesnt seem to work but others its still all there so keep the faith old friend and I'll keep you in my prayers (a little over used these days but true ) take care cs

Just a bit of my 2 cents as to applies to me..Im not married now, but have already been married twice..I have a girlfriend who doesnt live with me..My 2nd marriage ended when I was beginning to become symptomatic, but didnt know what was the matter with myself..The marriage didnt end because of pd, I wasnt dx untill a year after the divorce..But right now the thought of getting married again scares me, and it scares me because Im afraid that what CS has shared with us could very well happen to me too..and if it happens because of pd it happens usually when you need that partner the most, or should I say it usually happens when we need it to happen the least..I know that one day this is going to turn into a nightmare for me, and Im scared as h**l to roll the dice on another marriage, because of that possibility..I dont know if thats a good way to look at it, but its where Im at right now..It really saddens me when I read about one of us going through these kinds of problems, and it seems that there is one of us going through it too often..

no wonder girl here but read the ending on every post you write and really think about it . Yes what is going to happen is scarey but if no one ever takes a chance nothing changes and thats really sad , good luck and feel better