I am so sorry for your loss Woody. It must be so difficult for you. 66 years is a blessing. You must have really loved one another.

Wow.....I feel really bad for you. You NEED support from him. This is so hard to deal with and he needs to have compassion for you. I hope things get better for you. DO you have a crock pot? There are alot of crock pot meals you can make without having to chop things up.

Yes, but I live with vegetarians, and I'm super picky. There aren't a lot of things I can make in a crock pot that we'd eat.

Well I can tell you what I do. I cook everyday and I make all my meals fresh, But I do chop up all my veggis that I use alot like onions, bell peppers, celery, carrots and put them in baggies in the freezer. THey still taste just as fresh,I have froze potatos but I will say they cook a little different and Im not nuts about freezing those. On a day your hands feel good would be a good time to do this. Hope it will help for you.

Hi if you go online under crock pot dinners for vegetarians you will find some. There is a good veggie soup out there. Also a good bean soup. You do need to cut the veggies though. I often do cut up a lot of veggies and freeze them too!!

You need the right kind of support. No question about it. I am here anytime to talk to. Does your doctor treat you adequately? Do you have support in the medical field? This is critical in dealing with pain. Please let me know how you do. I think your husband needs some serious council, if he is to be a help to you. I don't understand men sometimes myself. ginnie

I just got a letter yesterday from my neuro that he's retiring. It's okay. I went to a pain doc last week and she was close to my age and spent a ton more time actually talking to me instead of pushing meds.

He's getting a little better now that there is more daylight, but he flat out refuses to help with things even if I'm screaming and crying (like with food mostly, because I need to eat something good). At least my daughter is learning to cook and has been helping cut things.

Something I'm realizing is that I'm really unemotional about a lot of things. I have to be like this or otherwise I'll be a lunatic. I am not getting upset at things I should be, which is kind of good because I can't stress myself. But I'm also not enjoying anything either. I rarely laugh. I think this might be part of the reason he doesn't seem to think anything is important. Or is that just my messed up view of things right now? I want to get mad, but it hurts me too much to have to deal with a fight.

And yeah, other people see the fact that he will NOT listen. They've pointed it out to him. I have been a little more vocal about that. I need to be a lot more.

He's on full time dad duty now that school is out. I need to make him more lists of stuff to do.