Wow. These are some of the best/most thoughtful posts I've read on this site—ever—every one a gem. I agree with everyone/everything. There's not much/anything I can add, and that's saying something (for me).

I come from a place of multiple chronic pain issues, each one fighting the others (and me) for precedence every day.

Evan, this is not just a PN/SFN issue; FWIW, this is a chronic/intractable pain issue.

coping intractable pain

The Intractable Pain Patient's Handbook for Survival

Coping With Chronic Pain

I don't know if a live (regular meetings) support group would be of benefit to you. They're easier to find in large cities, but some have popped up in other areas, depending on demographics. They helped me until I didn't need them anymore, but they're still there if I do, or I can start one.

Mindfulness Meditation(?)

Use the anger. Turned inward it becomes depression; turned outward and focused it can be a powerful tool.

Your greatest strength/support lie in your family—in the faces of wife & children. But you know that.

Doc