Fattieratties, I'm going to assume, so don't take offense.
My wife has suffered with RSD for 10 years. To this day she insists I think she is over doing it, lying, pretending...on and on. In reality I know she has RSD, without a doubt. Me being a guy, her being shy, I supposed to be able to read her mind, but for the life of me, after 30 years of marriage I still can't. I've told her over and over again that I'm not in your shoes, I can not even imagine the pain you are in. You must tell me when you are feeling very bad otherwise I might assume.

Another words communication is so important and sometimes its hard to convey the pain that you feel. Being a male I'm sure this can be very difficult. Hang in there, there will be a cure soon.

Thank you for you help and giving me a different point of view.I think sometimes I get so overwhelmed with what I'm going through that I don't see how my wife is feeling or what she is going through.I'm gonna try some of the things you've suggested.thank you all for you advice

There are many psych issues for both us and our loved ones regarding RSD. If you haven't had the opportunity to see a therapist personally, or as a couple, I think it can be incredibly helpful.

Being dependent physically and finacially can complicate the balance of power in a relationship. Utilize whatever resources you can to minimize this imbalance, if possible. (Does your state offer free personal aides? Have you applied for SSDI? Etc.)