Hi Swat,

That was obviously a horrible thing for anyone to say. I hope you are at your friend's house now and are feeling a bit better.

Hang in there.

Kim

Swat im so sorry anybody would say such a horrific thing to you! That's just horrible! That said I completely understand where you are coming from, After I couldn't work anymore I dived in and started helping caring for family with extensive health issues. However after 4yrs of doing it, Ive been doing a lot of reflecting and I realized I lost who I was after I was injured and then when I plunged into caring for family, my life consumed around that, and so I still never had found who I truly am after everything. So im making MAJOR changes for ME. My life does not revolve around my family, I do have one outside of it, I just need to find it. So by doing what ever im doing on this quest, im going with my good friend on a trip for a day, just a day, but its a day just for ME! So take however much time and find who you are outside of your family, because there is a YOU, and YOU matter, and YOU deserve happiness!

Wise words tos8

Ending your life is not the answer. You have so much in this life that you still can do! I know it doesn't feel like that now, but there is more. Call the local suicide prevention hot line. If you are connected to a place of worship, contact a clergy member. Find someone who will listen and help you. Please don't give up. You are worth fighting for.

I'm glad you're with your sister. I know it's hard. You can fight back. Nothing is wrong with you and everything is wrong with the family members that told you to u-know-what. I won't even type it. I know about family members.......my dad, in 8 yrs, has never once asked how I'm feeling. I had 3 back surgeries for RSD and never called to see how I was. My mother doesn't know the name of my condition. I asked her a coupe months ago. I live with her you think she would know by now (8 yrs running) lol. 2 of my closest friends are no longer friends and I knew them each for 30 years (since I was 7 yrs old). They treated me horribly because of my pains. I know family members aren't something that you can no longer speak to but their advice is ridiculous and extremely wrong! Hon there is always hope. It's not a well that dries up.

Post here when you lose hope. Even if it's every day. One good thing is that we ALL understand what you're going thru.

Take care of yourself,
Heather

Hello Dear Swatgen27

I too focus on family and help my mom, the kids and grandkids out as much as I can. I was super everything before this started. But I would sincerely hope that NONE of my immediate family, all 12 of them would ever be so insensitive, evil and just dang stupid to say something like that to me. God please have mercy on these poor, misguided fools.

Who in your immediate family would say something like that to you ?

My heart just hurts for you and I'm so very angry too. Each person is a precious gift from the Lord above.

Please know that we are are here for you and 'ending it' is not an option for u. I agree with everyone else on here that u need a professional to talk to. A third party not involved in the emotions is always helpful from my standpoint.

Stay strong sweet lady and please keep us posted on how it's going for u...WE CARE about you very much.

Debi from Georgia

I just saw your new post......I am so glad u have somewhere to go. Let your dear sister give u the love and support u need right now.

Dear Swat,
That was so unimaginably horrible! I was just hoping it was a an over the top "heat of the moment" thing. Just so cruel! You poor dear, you're shaken to the core, but still strong and smart enough to know what you need to do.
I'm glad you have a "sister" to go to and you have us with you always in thought and spirit.

I was so glad to see your new post..Keep the faith and keep strong..You are Gods child remember ,trust in HIM...

Wow, I cannot fathom someone saying this to a loved one!! They are supposed to pick you up, not knock you down. I'm so very sorry, but you're life is still worth something even with RSD!! Do not give up, and know that you have plenty here you can lean on. I'm so very sorry.

TK

Hang in there. There is life after RSD. It's going to be tough without much of a support system but you'll have to be tougher.

Just pray that your family eventually finds the sensitivity or understanding they lack.

Some people think this is all in the mind and they might have just been trying to get you to "snap out of it". Don't give up on them but don't take any of their misguided statements to heart.

Best wishes.