Ok, does this sound ok to send to my son's pre k class? Thank you!!!!!!

Thank you so much being my friend this year !!!!


I would really like to see you over the summer; for a play date or for my birthday . My mommy will start planning a party for me and my brother soon. If you would like to get together please call my mommy:

name and #

You might add your email address for those that are interested in keeping in contact, or even get a address little booklet - pass it around the class on the last day /party and ask if anyone would like to share contact info for the summertime?

I guess this would work best if the moms {or parents } are there LOL

Most parents dont get involved in activities. Then again most if not all work or just dont speak english.

Which Im sort of the opposite because Im always making goodie bags for holidays etc. The teacher was actually shocked the first time i brought in food/treats for the class. She said she wasnt used to anyone getting involved.

?????Is this everywhere? or just the town Im in?

Just one constructive criticism.

Do not leave it up to the mom and/or dad to call you because you may find no one responds. It has nothing to do with you, it is just the nature of the beast. Especially since you say that the parents do not get involved in activities/work/don't speak English.

Never leave it up to someone else.

Summer is hard for birthday parties. You may want to do a family celebration in Summer and then do a 1/2 birthday instead, at least during the formative years. You can make it very quirky, half a cake, etc.

Penny Whistle Party Planner has plenty of ideas but if you do a party every year, you can get really creative.

It may just make for a special memory your son will cherish when he is grown.

It is not that he has a Summer birthday but rather his crazy mother celebrated his 1/2 birthday every year.

In a way, he would have two birthday celebrations.

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No. Everyone works it seems. I was the only one in 4th or 5th grade Girl Scouts to do an activity (twice!!) to get badges. I was also the only parent who had MS and so ran activities sitting down.

In Kindergarten kids said who they wanted to see, I arranged and was always there. Now at 16, they remember who "MOM made me play with". I have boy/girl twins. After awhile had to throw separate parties for them. Referred to Bithday time as **LL week". Last combined Birthday (age 4??) had dinosaur (DS's choice) with Sailor Moon (DD's choice) in his jaws on cake.

You are the kind of mom that I was, involved, making play dates, etc. However, I remember one day when two little brothers showed up at my son's house. One was 8 and one was 9. My son introduced them. It seemed that they lived one block over from my home.

Well, being the thoughtful mother I was taught to be, I got their phone number, I called up their mother and I introduced myself. (see I always thought it was proper to introduce yourself to the parents of the kids who were spending time at your house. I was raised to believe this.

WELL!! you could have knocked me over with a feather when I got this response over the phone:

"Hello, my name is Melody, and your two sons are at my house and I thought I'd let you know where your children are, and that I would introduce myself (NOW IS THAT SO BAD???).


well, this woman said: "Oh, OKAY, NOW YOU MET ME, GOODBYE!!!!" And she banged down the phone. Seems I interrupted her.

I never in all my life expected this response.

So I gave everybody lunch and I decided to walk these boys home.

I walk up to their house with all three kids (my son and the two brothers), I see a man washing down his front porch. The kids looked petrified (like they did something wrong).

I said hi to the man, introduced myself and my son, and informed the man that we had all had a nice afternoon and I was returning their kids.

He looked at me like I was crazy and yelled at the kids and said "GET INSIDE", and the kids gave me a guilty look and scampered inside.

I saw them briefly after that. I believed they moved.

And if you think this is an isolated incident, well forget it. And this was almost 20 years ago, so I imagine things have gotten worse.

People work, people are busy, but remember one thing.

Someone has to be watching these kids over the summer. If the parents are working, they are either in camp, daycare, or have a grandma, or someone watching them.

Take an index card. Print what you wrote (it's just fine by the way), give all your contact information), email, phone, etc.

Then try and find out what the other kids are doing for the summer. Don't expect ANYTHING from any parent and you won't be disapointed.

About the english language difference?? Nothing you can do about that.

You can only do what you can do. Put it out there and if you get any bites, well, HOORAY!!! This might take some time.

But you just might find a little guy or gal who is being watched by a grandmother or aunt, and she might be delighted to have a playdate.

Oh, and I DO HAVE ONE NICE thing to say about a friend's mom.

My son was 7 and went to school. I would take him every morning and pick him up at 3 p.m.

He met a little boy named Sharif, same age. Sharif was on my front porch. I asked Sharif (who never talked more than a whisper by the way). Where do you live honey??" He lived at the end of my block.

I walked him back to his home, rang the bell (I was standing there with Sharif and my 7 year old son). This absolutely stunning woman comes to the door with a big smile.

I was so taken aback by the way she looked I stood there like a stupid idiot. (This is a true story, you can't make this stuff up).

I was just staring at her (she looked like Cleopatra with this long gown on). I said 'My god, you are absolutely beautiful). She burst out laughing and said "thank you".

I saw friendliness in her face, so I just went into my spiel about how her son was on my porch, blah blah blah and that I just wanted to meet the mom of my son's friend".

Well, she was so happy that someone took the time to do this, she invited me in. Turns out she was from Egypt, spoke Arabic AND FRENCH, so I was in heaven. She wore these Egyptian caftans (she gave me two).

She and I became friends. And she had 6 other children.

So every morning, I would walk Frank and Sharif and take them to school, and every afternoon, I would pick them up, stay in the playground with them and after one hour, take everybody home.

She became my friend and one day she showed up with some dish named KIBBE (sorry spelling). just to show her appreciation of how I cared for her son.

See, this kind of behavior, I found out, is QUITE UNUSUAL. I mean, we'd like to think we all should behave like this, but it doesn't turn out that way.

People are busy with busy lives and sometimes they dont' have time for their children.

Oh, this lovely egyptian woman had two more kids while she lived on my block. Her friendship meant the world to me.

Of course we moved, and my son, well let's just say, he dropped the friendship.

But friendships come and go. It happens.

You continue to be the mom you are, with the playdate invites, and the thank you's.

SOMEONE OUT THERE WILL REMEMBER YOU. I guarantee this.

I'd say do not definately invite them to a party in the far future because for some reason you might find you unfortunately can't give it. But maybe say "I'm thinking of having".
When kicker said she was involved in girlscouts that reminded me that my DH was a boy scout leader in my son's troop from when son was 8 till when he was 18 (cub scout till he made Eagle). I helped sometimes too. Me & son's little sis helped make costumes & marched with the cub scouts in the city Xmas parade. It was my idea to dress as gifts we made out of appliance boxes we wraped then put on bows & stuff. After we did that ppl in the 'audience' started coming to the annual Xmas parade as gifts.

Thanks everyone!!!!!!!!

I just printed them out on really cute paper. My son wrote the names and i had him lick the envelope!!!!

By the last few I realized my grammar was wrong (???) oh well.....im not perfect!!!!!

YEAH!!!!!!! ITS DONE!!!!!

Thanks again!!!

Thats great Motors Mommy. I hope everything goes good (so what about your grammar, I bet not many notice it) and Happy Future Birthday to your son. (Can I come?)

[QUOTE=lor;288959]Thats great Motors Mommy. I hope everything goes good (so what about your grammar, I bet not many notice it) and Happy Future Birthday to your son. (Can I come?)

ofcourse.......everyones invited!!!!!!!!!!!!!