A promise is a very serious thing. That's whywhen the kids were growing up and as little kids seem to ask for everything and every moment and forget nothing, I told them "I make no promises", so they knew if I did, I meant it.

Hey Bethie~ I have given this topic a little more thought, and reread your post, etc. I can tell how hurt you are and wanted to add another statement. For someone to go back on their word and cause the hurt and disappointment you are feeling, then they have some explaining to do.


If you don't have your word, what do you have? Nothing.

I did talk to them and told them they should make right what they did wrong.

They wholeheartily disagreed with me. They felt it was pretty much in the past and that we should all move on. I disagree.

promises were made and broken. I feel as though I was ripped off not only financially but also emotionally. It is just so wrong.

Beth:

Did you say you were ripped off emotionally AND financially?? And the other party wants you to move on and forget it??

I'd move on so fast it would make your head spin.

Shame on them.

Melody

It wasn't alot of money but its principal

Melody said it right ~~ SHAME on THEM!!!

Quite right, Bethie. When someone commits to an activity and misappropriates your generous funds/property, it's not only irresponsible, but immoral to blow it off without trying to make it right. It sounds like an abuse of your trust.

Very good point Cindy! A simple explanation would be in order. I know I certainly would not trust them again nor would I recommend them to anyone.

I'm sorry this person has hurt you. I don't know the size of the hurt, or the importance of the broken promise. But I sometimes find that some people are easily flustered when confronted face to face. When I feel disappointed in one of my friends, I'll usually write them a letter and explain my side of it, and how I feel. It has saved me more friends than one.

I hope that everything works out for the best for you, and I really mean that. I pray it doesn't become a clash of wills. But if I had to say, I would probably say that you are the one who's been slighted. And if that causes you to mistrust the person who made the promise, then you have every right to walk away from them. I just hope it doesn't come to that.

I agree with pretty much everything everyone else has already said.

I'm sorry someone treated you like this. I'm not sure if this was a family member or just a friend....and not knowing the person makes forming a judgment about them sorta hard....but I'd guess they are a little embarrassed and don't know how to justify their breach of trust other than to just blow it off. I don't know...just drawing straws here.

If it were me I'd do everything in my power to make it right. I couldn't live with myself if I didn't.

I think people make promises to quickly these days. They don't feel like it matters if they keep them or not. My Mom always told us not to make promises we couldn't keep. And I don't recall her ever breaking a promise to any of us girls.

I hope this resolves itself for you soon, Beth. I hate it that you tried to do something kind for someone and they brushed you off.