what about if u have a plan for just in case but dont plan on using it its more like u r in power of your choice if u ever decide to is that weird to do

these r just questions ok

Hmmmmmmm...addressing stressors Ms.Doody? Well, I was going to wear something purple to the wedding but then I saw your post in FF.

*whisper....cybil..aren't you glad you asked? We all learned something.

Oh I understand totally about back up plans cybil...just in case. Really not that unusual. When I was severely depressed Mr.Alffe got rid of the guns...just in case. Hugs

thanks alffe (((hugs)))

Cybil -- Feb.'06 I had to have ~shudder~ surgery to remove a brain tumor, I had all sorts of tests and stuff to check how my brain was working before surgery. Last Nov. I had 4 hours of neuropsych testing given to record my memory, word finding, speech, problem solving, how each hand- left and right- worked, yadda yadda.
When that had been completed by a technician, I was interviewed by a neuropsych for maybe 30 minutes. One of her questions was, "Do you think about suicide?" I answered "Yes". She asked if I was planning on committing it and I said no. She said, "Good. Thinking about suicide and planning suicide and two different things, RIGHT?" We talked very briefly about the differences.
Six months after surgery I had to take the same tests AGAIN and answer the same questions ~groan~.

I agree with Doody that there is such a big difference in thinking, "I'm too wretched to get up. I wish I would die so I didn't have to". and "I'm too wretched to get up. I'm going to kill myself so I don't have to".

We all are happy to answer questions if we can.

thank u jingle i am sorry u had to have brain surgary

do every one here find it hard to talk about suicide in the real world. it seems to me people rather nnot talk about it so u have to be care ful not to speak about it they rather not hear about it or pretend they dont hear about so it kind of leaves u staying quiet about it so u dont up set people does that happen to u

It is difficult Cybil...I've often said it's a real conversation stopper even in the chat rooms. When someone asks me which forums I frequent I always preface the response with "you'll be sorry you asked me".

It took me years to be able to talk about our son's suicide...since I couldn't talk about his life I also couldn't talk about his death. I've been told that I didn't grieve properly..that I was just stuck in an awful place.

I finally got to the place (with a lot of help from some cyber friends) that I could face that "monster" and now some accuse me of never shuting up about it.

alffe i am sorry about your son i did not know that. people get uncomfertable talking about suicide and death. was that why your husband took away the guns because u were depressed about your son u told your husband u had back up plans just in case