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Old 05-04-2008, 10:11 PM #1
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David,

I think you said it all, when you mentioned many times you were genuinely concerned for her. I think you went way above and beyond for her David.
You not only cared enough to listen, you also offered her compassionate and well thought out advice. It is hardly your fault she did not listen.

It shows how much you did try to help and care, that you took her life and the risks she was taking to heart and let it effect you so badly. That is the act of a kind person. You did show her compassion, more than the enough.
In your heart you know this.

Right now you are feeling badly because you had to tell the truth about her and her work practices. The thing is, you shouldn't feel badly about that. You have tried and tried to help her. You were asked to give a statement, if you had not mentioned everything you would have been remiss. Who knows, maybe in shedding some light on the matter you may play a role in getting her the help she so obviously needs.

As your singnature says.....Take care of you, I will also add...be kind to you Nikki
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Hi David,

I must echo the sentiments of the two posts before mine. Unfortunately, in order for a person to heal, they must want help. If they don't want help, they won't get help. You did a fantastic job supporting her and trying to get her what she needed, but it doesn't seem to me (as an outsider) that she really wanted it. Sometimes people are too comfortable in the life that they lead, no matter how awful it is.

I hope that you are able to come to terms with whatever the outcome may be here. You did nothing wrong. There should have been someone in an authoritative role that reached out to her. It is not your fault that those in charge were not able to help her.

Put your mind at ease, David. You were the person she felt comfortable lashing out at. Take comfort in the fact that you tried and you put your hand out there for her. Whatever she chose to do with it was her choice, not yours.

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David,

I think you said it all, when you mentioned many times you were genuinely concerned for her. I think you went way above and beyond for her David.
You not only cared enough to listen, you also offered her compassionate and well thought out advice. It is hardly your fault she did not listen.

It shows how much you did try to help and care, that you took her life and the risks she was taking to heart and let it effect you so badly. That is the act of a kind person. You did show her compassion, more than the enough.
In your heart you know this.

Right now you are feeling badly because you had to tell the truth about her and her work practices. The thing is, you shouldn't feel badly about that. You have tried and tried to help her. You were asked to give a statement, if you had not mentioned everything you would have been remiss. Who knows, maybe in shedding some light on the matter you may play a role in getting her the help she so obviously needs.

As your singnature says.....Take care of you, I will also add...be kind to you Nikki
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Hi Muttontastic and let me welcome you to Neuro Talk. This is a great place to find comfort and support...I can tell that you will fit right in.

David I hope you will have a better day at work today...can't remember the time difference..8 hrs? Anyway, you are in my thoughts and I'm sending you positive energy for a peaceful resolution.
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David, dear David --
You've had such GOOD things said to you because we all care about you so much and we need you.

Take care of YOU
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