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Old 09-29-2010, 11:34 AM #21
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I am trying to come up with responses that don't let me punch these people in their noses. You have no idea how many people think they have the right to blurt out "what the hell happened with your son, how come he never came home?

Oh my god, It's SO hard to look these people in the face and find something to say that won't disclose my private business.

Really, any come-backs would be greatly appreciated.

Melody, I was estranged from my oldest son for 10 years... our stories are similar, however I have never been asked 'what the hell happened to your son'....

I would be very taken aback and, like you, would find it difficult to find a quick response to 'put them in their place' .....

I know that inside yourself, you are rising above it all, Melody - and doing what is best and healthiest for YOU...
That's what I'm doing... its the biggest struggle, but I'm doing it ... baby step by baby step.... !

One thing that is different between us, Melody, is that I do talk about my son - as often opportunities arise where I can discuss Derek with others who have gone through the same experience. It helps me understand... and I have spent many years wondering ... why... how...

And as I learn to accept "it is what it is"... I am, like you, more and more ready to take care of me.

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To those busy bodies who ask insensitive questions about your son simply reply WHY DO YOU ASK? That should shut them up.
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To those busy bodies who ask insensitive questions about your son simply reply WHY DO YOU ASK? That should shut them up.
Oooh, I like that one. I once read that if someone asks you an inappropriate question, look them in the face and say:

"Now why on earth would you ask me a question like that".

It's supposed to stop them in their tracks.

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Oh, I discuss my son on the internet with others who have gone through EXACTLY what I have gone through. I don't have friends or family who ask me about him though. They all just went away quietly. It got too uncomfortable so they just gave up.

I found this out because I asked one of my cousins why no one has ever asked me about how my son is doing (and this conversation was 8 years ago) and they said "well, we don't know what to say so we don't say anything".

Believe me, many people have walked away from me because of this. But I had to cope so I coped. I found sprouting to be the best therapy for my brain and for my body.

It's quite soothing and restorative. That's why I do it. And it's cheap and fun

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Hi Melody!
Once again, thanks for bumping, Alffeeeee!
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Once again, thanks for bumping, Alffeeeee!
Hi Addy:

Love your frog!!!

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