[andi]

I am so depressed. All the commotion of the holidays and my boyfriend who has been so good since the car accident in july, all we do now is fight. I was alone on my bday because we were in a fight, we fought on thanksgiving, we are fighting now, all he will say is how much he wants the girl he first met back. It's so sad. I can't help it....I want myself back too. I have no money. no insurance. Have not been able to get good medical care and therapy. I'm feel like I am on house arrest because I can't afford to leave. I have now drained my savings borrowed 1000 from my grandfather to stay afloat for 1 more month but after this money is gone I have nothing. I really hate my life. I feel so alone. If it were not for the amazing love of my son I fear what would happen to me. I'm sure my boyfriend will not be around much longer. I guess I am too much of a ***** to stay around anymore. I still have hope that something will happen soon.

[ConcussedinPA]

First, happy birthday. I wish I was there to give you a big happy birthday hug. Instead I will give you a hug via email.

Second, do not lose hope. Many people resolve their symptoms within 6-8 months. Letting go of anger and stress helps speed the healing process.

You are not alone. Your boyfriend has stayed this long and it sounds like you have caring family.

Many things are swirling around my head on how to more fully respond to your pain. I will send this quick reply and respond more fully later. I did not want you to think you are alone. I am here and I care.

[July63]

Happy birthday.

I'm not one to really have anything wise to say (Trust me, most of the time I feel the world is against me, and I usually hang out at the suicide forum) but I wanted you to know that you are not alone.

Time heals.

Sorry about your finances also; I'm in the same boat. I feel that I feel best when I just try to laugh off my problems. It doesn't always work but it might.

[kikimoma]

I am so sorry for your pain and your troubles. Sometimes life just doesn't seem to make any sence. I strongly suggest that you go to MHMR office near you or to social services and see if there are any programs or supports that you can avail yourself of. Try to relax and concentrate on healing. Your life can get better.

[Mark in Idaho]

andi,

You and your BF need to get the TBI Survival Guide and read it.

Go to http://www.drakecenter.com/file.axd?...vivalGuide.pdf to download it and print it out.

Go to www.tbiguide.com to read it online chapter by chapter.

Understanding PCS is the first step to going on with a productive life.

My best to you.

[vini]

hi andi

its very hard and the world turns on us when we are sick

the love you have for your son will pull you through try to reach out to a head injury group in your area

was the accident your fault, fault is not the right word because an accident is just an accident

I could not cope with claiming welfare so get help with it if need be

5 months is not long after a had injury if you can get your bf to read marks link tbi giude. you see sometimes people think its not the injury but a problem with the relationship


best wishes

[andi]

Things are getting a little bit better. I am on a waiting list for a call to get an appointment with state and local agencies which is poopie at best. They are so understaffed and underfunded here there really is not much help you can get quickly. I was told to expect at least 6 months before any assistance will come my way. I wanted to say thanks to everyone I was really down. I am feeling better. I am still trying to get him (my bf) to read that (guide that mark sent) but he works and always says he doesn't have time. I don't have a printer but I think it would be worth it to go to the library and print it out. I hope you are are doing well.