Hows everyone today? I was surprised no one had started a new thread. I am not feeling to good. My stomach is bothering me. I have a lot to do and its not as warm as they said it would be. I wanted to give my dog a bath, but he would freeze to death I think. My nephew is coming anytime to jump start my lawn mower. I really want to sweep the yard of some messy pine tree, that we keep tracking in the house.

I hope you all have a good day. I'll check back later. My diet is out the door. Thats probably what is wrong with me.
Hugs,
BC

How's your arm? Hugs

I hope you slow down a bit Billie. I know you are trying to stay busy but you have to slow down a bit. Take care of yourself ok?

I hope everyone else is doing good today. I just took some med. so may be out before long since I have taken it. Its a gloomy wants to rain day but can only drizzle now and then.

ok. I need some help here. I have told you all I have been going through some personal stuff here. I hope I don't start rambling away and make this long. Here goes. All opinions welcomed.

I mentioned before when my son got out of prison in July he was coming here to stay and try to get his life in order. Well he came and he is the same ol son. Wants to condemn everyone to his life of mysery he has brought on himself. He will be 29 Wed. Well one thing led to another. He moved his girlfriend in so Jamie said he could pay rent. $100 a week. They ate here, bathed here, and everything. (I wasn't going to charge him so it would help him out. He hates letting go of his money anyways.) I do agree he needed to pay something though. Since I told him his fiance could not come. She is 18 by the way! And he used my truck without asking to go 100 miles to get her knowing I had already said No! And lied about it. Her Mom told me. ok....He is an abusive guy. He beats on women like his Dad did/does. I kicked him out twice for that and he said I would have to evict him. He doesn't know his Momma to well I guess. Anyway he caused alot of tension the 4 months he was here. Did I say we have always had a strained relationship anyways?

ok. Now Jamie. Who was acting like a monster the last couple of months. At first I thought it was stress from his 2 kids, 15 & 11, along with my son and his fiance. Well it wasn't. Jamie had a drug problem when we got together and he went off everything cold turkey. He has been clean for over 7 years. Well when we left the other job where we had been for 4 years he started working with a friend of ours. This guy has a son that also had a drug problem. (His Dad is clean as a whistle and hates drugs of any sort.) Well apparently Jamie got to doing it with him and this Mexican guy that works with them and supplies it as well. I know this is all fact so don't ask me if I am sure. I am VERY sure! I thought at first Jamie was having an affair. Well I did find out that wasn't the case. Thank God! The drugs are enough! Well last Sunday a week ago Jamie and my son (Jamie was drunk, my son had not drank anything. Jamie is also an alcoholic) they were going to go out to the pasture with the 04 Dodge and the 92 Chevy that we have and race......DUMB IDEA!! I told them both after a few words I was done! Jamie gets out of his truck and pushes me! Now I was floored because he has never raised a hand to me. My son jumps out of the Chevy and tells him he isn't going to push his Mom. That I understand. But my son beats the pure he#$ out of Jamie. Shane solves everything with his fists. Blood was everywhere. Jamie's kids were hysterical, I call 911. Jamie is threatening Shane at his camper with a machete, knife and everything else saying he is dead! The dispatcher won't let me hang up. It seemed like an eternity til they arrived. 3 of them. Sometime in the middle of all this my son and his fiance managed to get out of the camper and take off into the night through the pasture. She is on probation violation so they hauled butt. The cops decide the best thing is to take Jamie in. If not he would have kept this going all night so part of me was relieved. He was released Monday night and the judge ordered him to stay away from here and no alcohol and he has to check in 2 times a week til his court date on the 11th. He looked horrible. His front tooth, root and all was knocked out, both eyes black, one swelled shut, it was awful. My son is mean and I knew he would hurt Jamie. Jamie has never been in jail for anything other than a DUI 10 years ago. Well he went back to work Friday. Back around the same people. He came in Sat. high. He swears not but his eyes told the story. I was kept up all night from his tossing and turning because he couldn't sleep. So I know better. Yesterday I told him I just can't do this anymore. I am a total basket case.

His kids asked me to stay til after Christmas. Jamie swears he loves me but I told him talk is cheap....show me! I told him I will see the charges get dropped and then we are done. I can't go between hurt and angry and back again anymore. I am trying to figure this all out and I can't. I need some help here ladies if you don't mind. Sorry but I needed to get it out. Befuddled I know you have had some kind of something going on too. I hope you are ok.

Thanks for listening.

((((((((((((sherloc)))))))))))

i have to run and go get lil'monkey from school....i'll reply more later hon. hang in there.

added:
first and foremost...be safe. take care of yourself and your health..and your physical well being first. emotional too.

you can't fix him or your son. if jamie is willing to get help, then support him. you don't have to be together while you do that. you need time to heal from this.

we are here for you.



billie....i'm sorry i didn't reply to you earlier...i was rushed. how is your tummy? stress and grief can really mess with our systems. take it easy. i bought this "grabby" thing at the dollar store. it's a cheap one and meant for taking things off high shelves. yeah right. i take it outside wth a small grocery sack and pick up leaves. mostly from the bushes and plants...but no stooping and bending. getting outside cheers me up. i limit myself to the one small bag.

how are you tonight ms jan? my son and his dad are going to minnesota before christmas. my son is in for a BIG surprise on how cold it will be. lol. he has only ever been in the summer and fall. he thinks i'm exagerating.

Oh Sher, sweetie~
I wish I had some words of wisdon for ya honey, but this will hafta do!
Hugs,
LS

My arm is getting better. I have worked this afternoon. Mark, my nephew came and charged the lawn mower. It as such a job sweeping the yard that he stayed and I paid him good for it. I would of still been at it if wasn't for Mark. I am glad to pay for a job well done. It looks so nice now, hopfully it will stay that way for the winter. I do plan on taking it easy when time permiits it. So far there is something to do all the time.

Sher~ I don't know what to say. I was so hoping your son would be ok after he got out. I wouldn't doubt if mine turned out the same way also. Isn't it a shame when they don't learn their lesion? Mine says he is inocent, but he has been in trouble many times. He too, kept things churned up. We never knew where he was either.

As a Mother, you want to believe him. I felt the same way. When ours ended up in prison, my hubby said, at least we know where he is when we lay down at night. Sher you will have to decide, he won't change as you know. He has already proved that in a fight. Thats about all I can say. I know how you feel.
And you probably wonder, "Why Me". I am so with you whatever you decide.
May God Bless You,
Billie

{{{{{{{{HUGS SHER}}}}}}}}

I rode my bike today and it was greattttttttttt! stayed on my plan and I am proud of myself.

Dear Sher,
Wow,
that is alot of stress.
I wish I had some easy answer for you...I don't.
This is so sad when drugs and alcohol are involved and then there are the children who suffer seeing so much violence.
I read on another forum that the abusers never change...well it said that 2% change...not many still.
This sounds just heart breaking....
((((HUGS))))
bizi
*I hope they all leave your home so that you can rest and take it easy.

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Hi gang, late again as usual. Just took the boy to K-mart to get new jogging pants for PE. Man that kid has grown since last winter. It has finally got cold here, tomorrow is supposed to be around 32 I think. I hope my new palms do Ok. I was trying to find out if I needed to wrap them since they are new but I couldn't find any burlap anyway.

So I have not been on the scale since T-day and I don't think I will right away. I think I will give myself a few days of watching what I eat and then weigh in at the end of the week and hope for good news. I try to walk but often don't but I do need to change that. I also liked the recumbant bikes at the gym. They had some nice ones at kmart for about 125.00 but I just can't justify buying another piece of exercise equipment until I start to use the stuff I already have. Good for you Gaye riding your bike around. I used to love to ride my bike and maybe you will inspire me to give it a try again.

Sher, I am so sorry that you are having so many problems in your family right now. You said that Jamie was clean for 7 years so maybe he will wise up and do the right thing. I really feel so bad for you having to go through that and I hope that it at least gets a little better for you.

Well it is time for Deal or no deal so i am off to my recliner. ...Sue