yeah i'm so upset i just don't know what to do about my hair. try to fix it myself or go to someone else. before it was too long for me to do it myself. now, i could probably manage. i have cut it before and done a good job, but usually end up taking a lot of length off by the time i get things even. and even a good professional will need to take a fair bit of length off, just to fix it at this point.

but if i cut it any more, with good or bad results i won't be able to put it up at all. at best, it will mean i will be hot because it is hot and i like to take it up. but, if it comes out bad, i will be forced to look unpresentable on top of being hot! so then, i'll have to resort to hacking it all off... like into a bob cut! that looks good but i didn't want to cut it that short! it was almost to my waist!!!!

i wish i had never done this. i don't have the money for haircuts so it was a double whammy. it was a treat so i could look nice and maybe feel a little better.

i wish i had just told her to cut it even all around and not layer it. it was wavy even without being layered, and looked good. it looked better then, even though uneven, than now.

~ waves ~

I am sorry about your hair.....
(((((HUGS))))
bizi

thanks bizi.

what would you suggest? should i try to recut it myself? or just try to wait it out? i dont' know how much i can stomach it...

maybe you don't feel you can suggest, i know it's pretty hard as you can't see it. but maybe you have some creative ideas i haven't thought of...

sorry for the whining. this was supposed to be a present to myself, go figure.

~ waves ~

well
I think that you should go to someone else and ask them to "fix" the layers leaving them as long as possible.
can you pull it up all of it up right now?
if you can't then you may as well go short al the way. but if you can pull all of it up then go and ask them to straighten up the layers,,,does that make sense.
or you can do it yourself if you feel comfortable doing that.
I think a bob sounds cute.... but that is DRASTICALLY different than hair to your waist!!!!!!
bizi

Dear Waves,

I suggest that you wait it out for a little bit.

I sort of want you to do me a favor and consider leaving your hair alone for at least one week.

It probably looks much better than you think.

Please. I think that right now is not a time to make big decisions.

Yeah, I know that hair does not exactly count as a big decision and that a hair cut is not irreversible, but cutting your hair could be irreversible enough that it takes awhile to grow out.

I'm sympathetic to your desire to want to fix.
I totally understand.

I'm asking you to wait a week.
Then do what you want with it 7 days from now.
Please.


During the next 6 days you can play around with hairstyles or leave it a lone and try to ignore it. I'm wondering if you have nice combs, barrettes, ribbons, wraps, or other accessories.
http://www.susannahscombs.com/
http://barbaraanneshaircombblog.com/page/6/
M.

thanks for your feedback!

well, i normally would agree with the waiting. it is sensible. i already snipped a couple of spots myself - where there was obvious and very bad discrepancy. i did that the 2nd day and 3rd day afterwards. i've left it alone since... saturday? 3 days so far. i have been keeping it in a tail - and pretty much ignoring it. but yesterday i had to go to the dentist and was acutely aware of it looking horrible - felt so embarrassed.

it was almost to waist, and pretty much one length (not perfectly even because i had done it, but not terrible either). now, the longest part is down to my scapula, at the point where they jut out when moving the arms? the shortest layers are shoulder length. it's already a lot shorter than it was.

before, it looked good if partly gathered with one barrette/clasp, or in a pony tail (various ways), or in a bun or up (various ways).

she used this sort of razor-comb for the biggest cuts. then snipped at it some with scissors. i think that shavy thing makes the lengths all uneven, not cut with any rhyme reason or flow, but chaotically. my hair is wavy, but now these weird ends stick out like straight wisps all over.... awful!!!

i can get it into a bun, only just barely, and i haven't tried to see how long it will stay. it looks crappy in a pony tail. i can use one barrette, but, i suspect that just like a pony tail, that is going to look pretty cruddy now, because the shorter layers will "stick out" i don't like having bunches of things in my hair so more than that is not acceptable.

ok well for starters i will try the clasp in the back dealy and see if i can get it placed to not look bad. then i will stick it in a bun and see how long it holds. if either of those two produces acceptable results, i may let it grow out a bit more. otherwise, i think i will probably re-cut it.

another option is not to try to fix the layers - just cut it all shoulder length (essentially a long bob). it won't be puttable up but might not take too long to get there...

i feel bad this was a tgif thread and i've turned it into a hair thread.

~ waves ~

I wear a head band to hold back my hair, it is very small and flexable so no headache, I have worn one for years, and occasionally a barette for bad hair days. I use a curling iron to curl my ends down as the rest of my hair still has about 1 inch of perm...I have been growing it all out over the past year. so it is mostly straight now, but I like a little curl at the ends.
so when the perm has completely grown out I wonder if my thin hair will even hold a curl???after all of that time...I may end up jsut getting another perm...lol
bizi
here is a picture of my friend susan and I after a girls night out!, you can see my hair alittle curly on the ends and my head band.

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Bizi! you look pretty and your hair looks very trim.

because i like my hair long, i don't use any heat on it at all. i let it air dry. in winter i sometimes have to make exception, say to wash it on a work night - i have to at least dry it some - can't go to bed with it wet. chemical wise i only use shampoo and conditioner, at most i will use a bit of light-hold, alcohol-free gel to help shape it. i used to do oil treatments too.

i have head bands too... when my hair isn't layered they work pretty well. i don't like the feel behind the ears though especially with glasses - i can't wear them every day. right now it just looks really bad loose, unless i really work with it and mess with it and put stuff on it and i am SO NOT into that!!!

oh i put my hair back with the barette, and THEN put it into a tail and wrapped it into a bun. it has held out - and i chopped veggies and cooked for a couple hours.

so at least i have a presentability strategy. if i can restrain myself (I REALLY HATE HOW IT LOOKS!) i will try to wait about a month before trying to fix it, so that regardless the outcome i will still be able to put it up.

~ waves ~

Dear Waves,
I think if you like your hair long, the bob is going to feel very dramatically different. That's why I wanted a week long moratorium on scissors.
I'm sure that the bob will look beautiful on you, but after the moratorium, you will have a better idea of what you want


She did not think through what you wanted and what would work for your hair. What was she aiming for? Trying to thin out the hair? You probably did not need thinning. Thick hair is a work of glory. You asked for shaping I guess and got this instead.

In two months time, your hair will be long enough for the bun and less crappy (your word) in a pony tail.

Then in a third month or fourth you can get the wispy things evened out.

M.

Hi,
I need to talk about my hair.
Hair is all bound up with other stuff.

M.