Oh kay....
HOW DISAPPOINTING!
I would be angry with the system for the mix up.
Gigantic heavy sigh:(

major hugs from me this morning.
(((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))
bizi

The process sounds confusing and messed up.

You are doing well with patience.:Heart::Heart::Heart:

M

so many hugs and kisses and a lot of swear words
love
bobby

lol. Thank you!

This has all been one HUGE exercise in patience.

I've decided to consider Wednesday as not so horrific and not a waste of time because 1) I had to make that visit at some point no matter how asinine the policy is and 2) I had to see my insurance agent to get the ball rolling ASAP.

I'm going to push the reset button again and try to regard this as just another step in the process and look ahead to getting my license back within the next 30 days. I've been waiting a long time. Waiting some more won't kill me no matter how disappointing it is.

There was another woman from my city at the DMV Wednesday who also got a DUI in NH and was having issues. She had visited the DMV the week prior, had her insurance, and actually had her clearance letter from NH, but was told that they needed 24 hours to process something in the system before she could get her license back. She had to wait a week to get a ride. I think she had the problem because of their stupid policy of notifying them as to why NH suspended her license, but I didn't get a chance to ask her if that's what the issue was.

I'm pretty sure I'll be able to get my MA license back when I get my clearance letter from NH and if I pay my $500 fine. By then I'll have proof of insurance coverage in NH and a promise of coverage in MA when my license privileges are restored. To be on the safe side, I'm going to request updated copies of the 30 day letter and my driving record because both are only good for 30 days.
But I still have some concerns because the the DMV is so sketchy I wonder if they're going to tell me I have to come back 24 hours later because they have to process something in the system… what assholes.


In other news, it's too early for the protonix to start working, and I'm really missing the prilosec right now. Clearly it was helping me some degree.

I had an appointment with my eye doctor yesterday. The last time I saw hime I was having double and blurry vision in my right eye for well over a year and was starting to have it in the left eye occasionally. Nobody could figure out why. It turned out that it was the lithium (no problems since I stopped it in June). When I told him he was shocked that that was the cause. He'll be on the look out for it now.

I have a cigarette burn on my ankle that's become visibly infected. It wasn't painful when I got it (I have little feeing in my legs), but it's even painful to walk on now a week an a half later. Fortunately I don't have a fever. I'm seeing my PCP today.

sorry about your burn....
((((HUGS))))
bizi

I felt like a jackass for having to go to the doctor for a cigarette burn, but it's a good thing I did. It is gross. He gave me oral antibiotics (keflex), a topical antibiotic (silvadene), and took an X-Ray of my ankle to be safe. I also asked for and received a script for diflucan in case I need it.

I'm getting really tired of going to the pharmacy. At least I have a rewards card and get plenty of coupons for my trouble… :roll eyes:

We put off the food shopping a few days yet again, but absolutely have to get it done today. I know the store will be a nightmare. The sooner we go, the better. My husband is still in bed. I'd rather wait for him to wake up on his own, but I may have to wake him up. I hate having to decide when to do it. I always decide to do it too late or too early.

I am glad that you got your leg treated.
sounds painful.
good luck today at the grocery store and with hubby.
(((((HUGS))))
bizi

My insurance agent told me that at some point during the process of getting the sr-22 car insurance I need, my insurance carrier would send me a cancellation letter because they've been notified my license has been revoked, but by the time the cancellation becomes effective my sr-22 insurance will be in place…

Saturday I got the cancellation letter. It becomes effective May 20th. Hopefully that means things will be wrapped up by then, but I haven't received the letter explaining the sr-22 process yet as promised, and that has me worried.

I'm going to call my insurance agent today to make sure things are still on track. If there's an issue I need to know ASAP. I'll also be anxiously awaiting the mail today hoping to get the letter from my insurance carrier.

If there is a problem at this point, it's going to be pretty hard to fix because I have to deal with the May 20th insurance cancellation looming and this is supposed to be a 23 day process…

This whole thing is a mess. I'm ****ing sick of it.

I called the NH DMV to request a 30 day letter with a current start date as the hearings officer at the MA DMV advised, but was told that each person only gets issued one 30 day letter, so if they sent another one it would have the same date on it. Clearly the hearings officer had NO idea what she was talking about.

I called my insurance agent and asked her to contact my insurance carrier to ask if they are still going ahead with my sr-22 policy, and if not, why.

I'm glad I called because they never got it started. They wanted a copy of the 30 day letter my already agent faxed them on Wednesday. At that time she was told that the process takes 23 days, but the man she spoke to today said it only takes a couple of days to issue an sr-22 policy…

I hope what this man says is true, and it means I should be able to get my license back quicker? Or at least not be in danger of having my car insurance cancelled before my new insurance is in place?

There has been so much misinformation throughout this process I don't know what to believe. My insurance agent's explanation wasn't exactly clear to me because of my anxiety.

I'm confused.

Kay,

You have done really well so far. Even with the disappointments and frustrations and hassles and incompetence, you have made a great deal of progress.

Keep going through the steps.


M

kay good for you for calling and being persistent.
This is a long process and you have shown great patience in this imperfect system.
I am hoping that you get your driving license as soon as possible.
((((((hugs))))))
bizi

This is good news for a change…

My agent spoke to someone else and I guess they did start the process on Wednesday after all and my sr-22 insurance is already active. They already sent the certificate to the NH DMV so I'm just waiting for my clearance letter.

Because of all the phone calls I've made, I know that the NH DMV sends the clearance letters out as soon as they get proof of the sr-22 insurance. I could get it any day now. The rest of my paperwork is in order so I can hit the DMV to get my license back as soon as I get the clearance letter.
Hopefully when I get there, they don't tell me I have to come back in 24 hours because they have to update the system :rolleyes:

I'm not in danger of insurance cancellation either. An agent with my insurance carrier will keep an eye on things to make sure the transition between the two policies goes smoothly.

So this ****ing horrible confusing mess is looking like it will be over soon :):):):):)

I'll be stalking the mailman again ;)

yeah!!!!!
(((((HUGS)))))
bizi

Nice!
 

That is great progress, Kay. :):):)


M

I got a ****ing letter from the MA DMV today telling me that effective May 7th my license is suspended/revoked for an additional year…. ****ers!!!

I called a lawyer who can probably fix this for me without any hassle, but he wants a $750 retainer. My husband is far from on board… and at this point doesn't care if I ever get my license back. He wants to drive the car off a cliff.

I doubt I can fix this myself, but I'm going to try…

I called the NH DMV and I was "restored" yesterday. They sent my clearance letter out yesterday or this morning. When I get it, I'll take the expensive cab ride to the DMV and wait three hours or so to find out exactly what I need to do to rectify the situation if I can.

So again I go from bad to worse and this is the worst case scenario yet. I'm about ready to give up.

you can't believe how sorry i am...it is nauseating...where there is a will there is a way....you poor thing. my class today said everything works out for the best. it made my stomach ache go away for a few minutes. i don't know if it would work for you.
hugs
bobby

oh noo!!!!!
F***
I am so sorry....
bizi

I took all 3mg I'm allowed a day yesterday. I can't remember the last time I did that. I almost want this to be over with as much as I want to get my license back at this point. This is the never ending (horror) story. On top of everything else, I have to deal with my husband losing his temper every time something goes wrong. He's being a ****ing *** hole. He is the exact opposite of supportive.

I called the MA DMV 100X and kept getting the same message while I was on hold: press 1 to get a call back later or press 2 to end this call. Whenever I pressed #1 it said the callback would be on Thursday?!That makes absolutely no sense to me!!!
I kept calling and got through to a rep around 4:30. She said the suspension was triggered in the system because they haven't seen my sr-22 insurance… somehow I doubt this situation will be that easy to clear up…

I have a copy of my sr-22 certificate and the letter my insurance carrier sent to the NH DMV stating I've had coverage since 4/27. This should be enough, but I don't know what to expect because the (incompetent) hearings officer said I needed a "binder," but my insurance company said they only issue those in certain situations, this isn't one of them, and they've never heard of anyone needing that for this process. The DMV also has access to my insurance coverage in their system.
If things go badly with the first hearings officer I see, I will ask to speak with another one. I think being pushy is appropriate at this point. I hope can get to the MA DMV by Friday- before that 1 year suspension goes into effect on 5/7. I think that will make things a lot easier. Please cross your fingers for me…

I called the NH DMV. They sent my clearance letter out either Monday or yesterday morning. When I requested the 30 day letter I got it fast, and I hope that's the case here. Best case scenario: I find it in my mailbox today or tomorrow so I can be at the DMV with all my paperwork before it opens Thursday or Friday morning.

I'm going to walk to the plaza by my house today even though it's a pretty long walk for me and the weather isn't very inviting. I want to hit the ATM so I have the $500 on hand for my visit to the DMV (in case they let me get my license back) so I don't have to worry about stopping on the way over. I also need cigarettes and a couple of things at the supermarket. The exercise will also do me good. And it's a distraction. The mail doesn't come until 2:30 and I need to keep my mind occupied on other things

Sending you some good thoughts of protection today. Let no harm come to you as you venture on your walk.....be safe.
fall down 7 times get up 8.
bizi
(((((HUGS)))))

things have to work out. I know they do.
love
bobby

Thank you ladies :group hug:
I think things will work out eventually, hopefully not a year from now though.

The walk will do me some good. I will be extra careful crossing the road. I'm leaving around 9 when I know the stores will be open. It will be good to get out of here for a little while.

I've skipping the club because I'm saving the money I'd be paying for the cab fare to pay for my ride to the DMV and to pay the $500 fine to get my license back.

Kay,

You have amazing stamina.:hug::hug::hug:


Mari

No letter yesterday :(

My anxiety is ****ing sky high. I'm using the klonopin as I should, and I'm doing what I can to distract myself, but I'm still absolutely miserable.

After my walk yesterday, I kept myself busy doing two loads of laundry and bleaching out the bathroom, but that didn't occupy enough time and I found myself watching the clock waiting for the mailman to come. The wait was torture.

I'm trying to be optimistic, trying to believe I'll find that letter in my mailbox this afternoon. There's a good chance it could be there. When I requested the 30 day letter it arrived 2 days later.

I'm going to have to distract myself again today. If run out of things to do, I'm just going to have to get creative.

How was your walk yesterday? Could you go again today?
bizi
I am very sorry you are miserable.((((HUGS)))))

how painful
hugs
bobby

The walk wasn't too bad. I wish the weather was nicer though. I'm sore today because it took me about 1 1/2 hrs. It takes my husband less than 20 minutes round trip to walk to the liquor store in that plaza. He wasn't happy I walked over there, but TS.

no wonder you are sore.
((((HUGS))))
bizi

No letter yesterday either :(:(:(

Trying to look on the brighter side yet again…
I guess that's somebody's way of telling me I'm better off waiting to go to the DMV until after the new 1 year suspension goes into effect on Saturday. I guess I'll have a better chance of them lifting both suspensions at once and I'll be less likely to have to make a second trip. Because they're *** holes, I'll probably have to go back a second time for something stupid anyway though… that is is I can get anything resolved at all.

Because my anxiety's been in overdrive, I've called the DMV 100X since I got the letter telling me my license was suspended for another year, but I've only gotten through twice. They both said to blow off that letter and all I need is the NH clearance letter + $500 and I can get my license back.

I don't trust them though. Despite my many calls, they didn't exactly prepare me for my visit to the (incompetent) hearings officer.

I better get that ****ing letter today or tomorrow. I don't see why I wouldn't, but I'm experiencing a lot of catastrophic thinking right now. Unfortunately a lot of it is justified. I hope when I get it, it will relieve some of this anxiety. I don't want to spend the whole weekend feeling like this :(



I'm supposed to get my burn checked out today. It looks grosser, but feels better. I really don't want to go, but I probably will.

For the second time this week, my husband didn't buy me cigarettes so it looks like I'll be taking a long walk again and I'm not happy about it. It's lousy out. It will be cloudy and about 50 degrees by the time I leave, but at least it won't be raining.

lots of hugs ...if only they could help
bobby

Again, no letter :(

Because I'm ****ing ridiculous, I called the NH DMV to make sure they sent the letter to the correct address. They did. They generated the letter at 2pm on Monday, so it went out with Tuesday morning's mail.

It really hasn't been that long. The letter is coming. I'm sure nothing is wrong and it will be here soon, but I'm being impatient and want to control everything because I'm so agitated/anxious.

I'll be stalking the mailman again today. Today will be 4 days since they sent the letter… a good chance it will be in the box… God I hope it will be in the box.


I did go to have my burn checked out and my PCP said it's healing well. I'll still be bandaging it like this for a while.

Grocery shopping today… yay! My favorite!

good that your leg is healing and have fun grocery shopping!
sorry for the mail delay....:(
soon come...
bizi

No letter today either :(

I woke up this morning (at 6am as usual) and was sure my letter found it's way into someone else's box by accident, so I went to check to see if they left it by the mailboxes for me. Of course it wasn't there.

I'm fixated.

My husband thinks it's really unusual it hasn't arrived yet, too. I think it probably did end up in one of my neighbor's mailboxes and they decided not to be very neighborly. If it doesn't arrive by tomorrow, I'm going to call the NH DMV and ask them to send another one out because that's more than enough time for it to get here… it should have taken 2 days. I'm not going to drive myself crazy waiting for something that's never going to come.

OMG the parking lot at the grocery store was a nightmare yesterday!!! My husband made me wait in the car for a few minutes until he thought it was safe for me to get out and walk to the store. There must be at least 2 accidents in that parking lot a day on good days. That's part of the reason why my husband doesn't like me walking to that plaza, but I don't have to walk in the parking lot at all when I do.

i didn't understand your last sentence. so frustrating about the mail
bobby

I think she was reffering to when she walks there from her home.
bizi

Right. And when you go by yourself, you can choose a "quiet" day to shop like Tuesday instead of Saturday.

Those folks can send a letter out, but go ahead and double check that
they have your address 100% correct.
We were missing mail from an IRS office because the address hubby gave out over the phone was transcribed with mistakes.

M

Kay

Sure hope it comes soon.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

I called mid-way through last week to check that the DMV had sent the letter to the correct address, and they had.

The way things have gone throughout this whole process is, if something can go wrong, it will. It would be great to find the letter in my mailbox today, but I doubt it would be there. It's taken so long, something must have gone awry. I'm not going to wait until after the mail comes at 2:30 to find out. I hope if I call and ask for them to send me another letter before noon, they won't give me any **** about it, and it will go out with the morning mail. If the letter does arrive today, no harm done.

The plaza is usually quiet in the morning during the week which is when I've walked over there. When I used to do the food shopping, I would take a couple of small trips on weekday mornings when things were quiet.

My husband wants to continue to do the food shopping with me when I start driving again. IDK why. Because he works, we have to go at the worst times and he's absolutely miserable. I'd rather go by myself when I can do it in a more relaxed atmosphere and I'm under less pressure from him to get things done so fast. I can leave the heavy bags in the trunk for him to bring in like I used to.

This sounds like a plan although you may just want to wait.
I sent a check to my yard guy that arrived 2 weeks late.
The mail sometimes does lose things.
have a good day irregardless.
bizi

It's not like there was a check, and the DMV had to pay to cancel it. It's not a big deal for them to send out another piece of paper, but it is a big deal for me to have to wait an unspecified period of time for a letter that has the power to get me my license back to arrive. I've waited long enough. I called yesterday and they're sending out another letter.

Yesterday I found a mail forwarding sticker with my name on it stuck to the back of our mailbox where our name tag should be. I moved back here a year and a half ago, so I don't know why it was there, and I've never noticed it before. I haven't had any other mail issues for a while now, but maybe something went wrong there… different mailman? We also didn't get any mail for 2 days last week, which is rare. I wonder if other mail went MIA? I removed the sticker and taped up a post-it with our names on it.

I hope I can get to the DMV Friday. The driving record I have is only good until the 15th (Sunday). The hearings officer I saw when I went last time didn't want to see it, but that doesn't mean they won't want to the next time. It's supposed to be a requirement to get your license restored. I mailed a request for an updated one, but it won't arrive until the middle of next week at the earliest. I can't see myself taking a trip to the DMV without an up to date driving record, knowing there's a 50/50 chance I'll spend big bucks for a cab and wait 3 hrs only to be turned away. So even when I get the clearance letter, I may end up waiting around for something else.

I'm tired of all the road blocks and delays. At this point, I've just completely lost patience with, and definitely faith in, this whole process. I'm a mess of anxiety, anger, and frustration. Right now I feel like this **** is never going to end, and I'm never going to get my license back.

rats big rats
bobby