hi kay,
I had company for dinner,
just getting on line tonight.
It sounds like you have a lot on your mind.
This is important stuff you are dealing with.
I hope that you can just leave a message too.
Good that you will be documenting things...
here is to a safe journey....
Be very careful with your fragile self.
((((((HUGS)))))
bizi

Kay,

Your posts are measured.

Yet what you write about are things beyond anything someone should have to deal with.

I am sorry for the disturbing "meeting" with your father.
I am sorry that you are dealing with that responsibly by calling your aunt and
preparing to call the wife if need be.
Use all your tools for good care -- Seroquel, Klonopin, weekly appts pdoc, self-documenting.

I want good things for you.

M

Thank you ladies

Adding the 50mg of Seroquel helped... No ugly imagery after that, but the intrusive thoughts are still there. It takes a lot to manage OCD symptoms and that's probably why I didn't see any changes to in the intrusive thought dept. I took 50mg Seroquel again today, hoping it helps again.
I'm not going to 100mg of Seroquel until I speak to pdoc. I'm afraid 100mg might bring me down and I certainly don't need that. I was wrong about the appt- it isn't until Friday, but I can hang in there.

I'm more anxious today. I think it's because a second call from my aunt to the ***** went unanswered and un-returned, and I know I'm probably going to have to call her myself. I'll consult my aunt again tonight, maybe tell her to leave a message saying that it's regarding my father's health/mental health and well-being and it's urgent she call back. Maybe that will make a difference and her call will be returned. "Hey, what's up?" ain't gonna do it.

I've been having other issues that I've chosen to keep private, and yesterday I found more on my already full plate.

I know I'm still stable because I'm still able to work through all of this with my best coping skills- using logic, denial, and data. Whatever works.

Kay,



Any chance that email or snail mail or texting to the wife would work? I am guessing that it would not and that you already thought of that
Can you have the cops do a wellness check of your father now?

Sorry to hear that you have issues and that the plate is full.

Focus on your own stability.

Logic, denial, data --- they can work.

M

My aunt left word in both messages that she wanted to talk about my father's health, still no response.

I haven't spoken to my dad since Thanksgiving. He should be starting to settle in FL by now. I'm going to give him a call tomorrow to see how he's doing. I don't know how much talking he'll do since when they're down there there's often not much physical separation between the two of them.

Every time I think about the possibility of having to exchange words with that ***** it makes me feel physically ill. I don't want to expose myself to that, but the issue is too important to be dismissed or delayed...
I never thought of email, Mari. Thank you. I think it's probably the best route to take. I can easily get my hands on her email address.

I just hope she will do what she can to help him, and restrict any communication to that and that alone.

I just spoke to my father. He just arrived in Florida, but his wife has already made him an appointment to see his psychiatrist for tomorrow
I cannot tell you how relieved I am.
She obviously doesn't need me to intervene.

I thanked him profusely for going and told him how happy I was that he made that decision.
I asked him to be honest about his behaviors: the excess spending, excess energy, inability to sleep, alcoholism, periods of depression (I left out psychosis and grandiosity among others). He got angry with me and said he would tell them what he wanted to. He's a stubborn SOB. I said I understood, but it was important to be honest because he needs to be on the right medication, and nobody understands that better than me.
He used his usual dismissive defense mechanism when he knows I'm right about medical-related issues and doesn't want to hear it, "That's enough Dr. (my maiden name)."
I told him how worried I had been about him, and that the calls from my aunt to his wife were at my behest. I said I knew that contacting his wife directly would be bad for everyone. He said she never would return a call from my aunt.
I told him I'm always here when he needs to talk, and again how much I love him.
I really do think that what I said to him when he came over helped because he had been so resistant to any kind of help for so long before that.

This is a much needed weight off my chest- at least temporarily. I hope that my father is honest and is compliant with whatever his psychiatrist recommends. Above all else, I want him to be safe.


That little bit of 50mg of Seroquel has been keeping the ugly images away since I've added it The intrusive thoughts are still there. I'm going to have to deal with them.

Seroquel has been a good drug for me.

I hope my anxiety will improve a little since my dad is getting help.

Also on the license front... UGH

I called drunk.org #1 to check to see if they sent my paperwork to the state and they said they never received notice I completed the driving program. I know all my paperwork is in and the last time I spoke to a case manager was on the 12th and she said she would contact drunk.org #2 for proof I took it. Apparently they never received it. They said they would look for it.

Today I called drunk.org #2 myself and they said they sent it on the 9th, but drunk.org #1 changed their email address and didn't tell them. Drunk.org #1 called them yesterday looking for it and should have it now, but I should call them back if there was a problem.

I said I would be laid back, and I was, but there's nothing like falling through the cracks and wasting a month.

I am glad that your dad is agreeing to see his pdoc. and you can sigh of relief knowing that you helped.

sorry about your papers being lost.
ugh!

glad that you did not wait any longer.
bizi

Kay

I'm so glad your dad is going to get some help.

And I think your doing great waiting on the companies involved with the
driving mess.

Donna

great about your father. i think your love helped him
bobby