[Dmom3005]

Personally I would guess they wont try to evict you. Because for
one thing. I don't believe they could charge you for money till August.
I would double check that with a lawyer that wont charge for it.

Also they might give you notice before its due again. If they do that
you have more time to look again.

Personally I'm glad you got it done a good way.

Donna

[Mari]

Kay,

You are totally amazing.





M

[OhKay]

My husband is the "boss", but in a lot of ways he really isn't. When it comes to situations like this, he's a hot head and incapable of handling matters himself. He gets lost and needs me to take the reigns, and given the right circumstances, and enough time to adjust, I'm pretty ****ing savvy. Unfortunately all of this is all a reminder that there's another side of me, the bipolar side, which is absolutely dysfunctional.

Things are getting harder for me physically (minus the magic of mania) and it was particularly clear yesterday. While I was struggling to get my groceries into the apartment, it occurred to me that we do have a way out of the lease…

I have a progressive disabling disease and getting in and out of the apartment is getting too hard for me- and it's not a lie. It is grounds to terminate a lease without penalty. It would be a dream to have a more accessible apartment. I see my neurologist next month and will ask for a letter.

Yesterday was also a reminder that I need to start slowing down. I shouldn't have done the grocery shopping because my body was telling me not to, and I can't keep carrying grocery bags in like that. My husband needs to start carrying his own weight.

[bizi]

I just read your thread.
It sounds like they are going to fix the problem once and forall.
I am happy for you. I am sure you will be so glad when it is done.
sorry that you had to call the health department in order for them to do something. but hey, that was ridiculous!
(((((HUGS))))) to you today.
bizi

[Mari]

You have a good way out. The neurologist will help.

Mari

[OhKay]

I can't believe I've been sucking it up for so long it never occurred to me that we should move to make life easier for me…

Even though we have grounds to break the lease without penalty, I kinda doubt my husband will want to move any time soon because he's lazy. He did ask a friend to ask his friend who owns a property management company if he has anything available, but I don't know if anything will come of it…

We have 3 cats, smoke, and are looking for a place that's easy for me to access. It's a tall order. Most places will be okay with the cats, but most places that are handicap accessible are 55+ or really expensive, and most places have gone smoke-free. I think we will have to learn to live with smoking outside because it will be a big sticking point.

I don't know when they're coming to fix my ceiling, but I've been showering every morning so I'll be ready in case they come. They're supposed to provide me notice so I can take everything out of the BR (including the shower curtain) and lock up the cats, but I don't trust that they will do that. I stopped by the office to reload my laundry card and the assistant office manager told me that the head of maintenance will be handling the job. I don't know if it's because I'm a pain in the *** and I called the health department, or because the job will be difficult because of the water damage to the adjoining wall. I don't know, and I don't care as long as it gets done.

When I saw my pdoc on Monday she said she went to a conference and sat through a lecture dealing with the subject of using supplements to treat OCD. She said that she wanted to do some more research on the subject, but that she thought that it was something I could definitely benefit from. I see her in a month and she'll discuss a plan with me then.

Meanwhile, I'm thinking about quitting smoking because of the pneumonia. I started when I was 13 and have been smoking for 23 years with the exception of the occasional attempt to quit. I'm going to switch to e-cigarettes after this carton. I tried them years ago, but it was a lousy brand and they were a constant frustration, so I abandoned them. They're supposed to be much better now… if you buy a brand that doesn't have a history of exploding.

[Dmom3005]

Kay
I can totally understand the not having anything handicap accessible. So even if you don't find anything for a while. Looking is a good idea.

Donna

[bizi]

Sounds like a good plan.
Good luck with the ceiling/wall of your bathroom. It sounds all so frustrating.
I am glad that you will be looking to move.
Maybe you could move before the snow flies?
I am glad that at least one of you can make things work for your family.
You are a team player....
hugs to you today
(((((HUGS)))))
bizi

[OhKay]

The original maintenance request that included repairing the ceiling and putting up my handicap sign was entered in the system on October 12th (I saved the email confirmation). I'm still waiting for both things to be done.

Last week I was told that the ceiling was going to be repaired sometime this week, but here it is Friday, nothing's been done, and I have no expectation of when it will be. My instinct is to send the assistant property manager an email asking for an update so I will have a paper trail.

I don't know why I really need a paper trail anymore, aside from having more proof that this place sucks, because my husband is intensely unhappy here and has decided he wants to move when we can.

My appointment with my neurologist isn't until December 21st, but I also have an appointment for a physical with my PCP on the 28th of this month, and I'm sure he will do his best to help me with this situation, as he has with others in the past. Of course two letters would be better than one.

Whenever I decide to approach our "landlord", I think I have to give them 60 days notice. We need to use the time between NOW and the end of that period to do some accounting and get on a budget. We will have to at least pay first, security, and moving expenses without exhausting what little is left of our savings. I think it's conceivable that we can put some money away during this time, and every little bit helps.

I've been searching apartment complexes for our criteria, and looking at external shots of the buildings so I can see what the access would be like (most places are simply out of the question), but I'm not making any phone calls or checking out individual listings now because we don't have a move-in date.

Believe it or not, after everything we've been through, I think my husband would accept an offer of a different apartment from this property management company if it was in excellent shape and in the right price range. I may be a pain in the ***, but we've never been late with the rent in 7 years.

[OhKay]

"Hi XXXX,

I'm writing to ask if you can please find out when maintenance will be by to fix our bathroom ceiling.

I understand that someone else will be completing the work now, but after meeting with the inspector last week on the 10th, XXXX told me maintenance would be taking care of it sometime this week. I understand I may have created a delay of about two days or so last week by calling in an inspector due to my concerns, but this work order for the ceiling was initially opened on October 12th…

Any information you can provide me with would be welcomed.

Thank you,

ME"

I had to write this damn letter about 100 times before it got that amiable. Even if she responds to the email, I doubt I'll get an answer of any kind before Monday.