Having a hard day. Never got out of pj's, didn't wash my hair or take a bath, now way overdo, nor brush my teeth.

I keep getting texts from the sick neighbor, she's worse and is frantic to get me to come to her apartment and check her bp, she said M is there now. I sent her a lengthy text explaining to her why I can't come back to help her and encouraged her to call 911 if she is still feeling that bad.

Just cannot be a part of all this drama when I can barely take care of myself.

I don't care about the outcome with ruined friendships with those two, I am not getting into the middle of another argument with M over the sick neighbors care and I am clueless why she is reaching out to me for help when M is there. It's hard for me because I am the person that runs towards emergencies than running away from one.

I spelled everything out for her to take with her to the ER if she goes 1) her bp was 210/100, 2) temp of 100, 3) skin tented and stayed up during a hydration test on her hand 4) not eating and drinking now for 5 days,5) she was not taking any blood pressure medication and did not take her insulin, still vomiting (now yellow which is bile). She's been oversleeping and M is not recognizing the warning signs that all the sleepiness is due to high blood sugar. I warned M about this but she disregarded everything I said. Heck this woman is 84 years old, she needs emergency care.

It's almost homicidal of M to keep her from going to the ER. I just do not want to get involved in any of this. I'm sure M will be down here shortly pounding on my front door again or ugly faces and language at me later on next week over all this. I can expect this to happen and I am doing all I can to keep myself safe now, esp. just starting on a new mood stabilizer. It just comes down to ... I no longer care anymore.

Blue

I’m so sorry that you are living in the middle of a vipers’ nest. I can’t even imagine how that must feel for you (((HUGS)))

While I agree that it’s definitely the best thing for you and your mental health to stay safe in the safety of your apartment, your neighbor desperately needs to be hospitalized and her support system has clearly failed her...

In your position, I would call the non-emergency number of my local police department and describe ONLY #1 her medical situation as you have described it to us, and #2 that she is being isolated, and ask them to do a welfare check and if you can remain anonymous (not that you should care because you will probably be saving her life).

I hope this helps.

And I hope that there are much better things to come for you soon. You have been through the f’ing ringer (((HUGS)))

OhKay ~ Just called for a welfare check. It occurred to me when I was talking to emergency that I had no proof who was texting me back was really the sick neighbor.

Right after I got off the phone, the sick neighbor texted me that she knows how to access her health because she was a surgical scrub nurse and to mind my own business.

I could care less.

I did text her back to expect a visitor accessing her health. Have not heard back from her since then.

Expect that things will come crashing down on me negatively by the ladies, instead of appreciation that I was looking out for the sick neighbor. But then that is in keeping with who they all are and how I have been treated since I moved in here.

After I gave emergency all the information, they felt I was making the best possible decision in favor of helping my neighbor. I asked for the police to visit with me when they get here.

I don't want to live here anymore.

Blue

Lesson learned.... will not get that involved with anyone’s life here ever again.

The police told me the reason I was not let in to check on the sick neighbor was because I was insisting she go to the ER.

I’m sure I will get crucified by them. Thinking I will block all their cells going forward.

Trying to figure out how to keep myself safe.

Blue

what a=holes. You have been trying to save her life and the whole world is upside down. You must be so frustrated. When she dies just promise me to think it has been in God's hands and you are wonderful. You have done your best.
Tell me more. Does your kitty cat enjoy anything else? I am so thrilled that your kitty enjoys something. I hope you start knitting a lot!
Fondly
Bobby

I don't know if you can afford these https://www.amazon.com/Kaneso-Tokuyo...ay&sr=8-5&th=1 but Abby has been going crazy over them and they are low calorie.

It may not feel like it right now, but you made the right decision by calling to ask for the police department to do a welfare check. You now know that the sick neighbor is well enough to make her own decision not to go to the hospital, so whatever happens, you conscience is clear. You would not have had to call at all had the sick neighbor not kept texting you to come see her, while M was trying to keep you away without telling you why...

It sounds like they were playing games with you. But by doing the welfare check, you showed them you are not playing games. You did not call 911, so they can't say you overreacted.

I don't know why all these women decided to gang up on you all of a sudden, but usually being a good person does not, and should not, come with such heavy consequences. I don't know how they all found one another, but they deserve each other, and whatever lousy things are coming to them

Stay in your apartment, don't answer the door, and ignore their calls and texts. If you see them in the hallways, walk on by. If they try to speak to you, keep waking. Hopefully if they don't get the reaction out of you they want, their antics will not be as fun for them, and they will stop harassing you- at least as much or as often (((HUGS)))

Hang in there.
Kay

The police reported to me that they accessed my sick neighbor, who refused medical care and going to the ER. So, the police left.

Sick neighbor texted me that the police had just left, there were three very nice young men and it was a pleasure to talk with them. She wished me a good night and then that was that.

At least it's all been documented and it's out of my hands.

I want nothing more to do with these two ladies.

Decided I will no longer cat sit for anyone here either. Not getting that involved with anyone in my housing community. Will be looking for interests outside this community.

I feel I have been badly treated by women in this community and I did nothing to deserve this, so this is all about them. Niceness is a sign of weakness and they prey on nice people here. Washing my hands of everyone and walking away. My plan is to keep to myself, not talk on the phone or text anyone here, not participate in any community activities here either. Just not getting that involved with anyone anymore.

I am very depressed today and very sad.

Wishing this new med (Lamictal) will kick in and help regulate my mood.

All I want to do is stay in my bed with the curtains closed.

Today, I have to travel to my property managers office to give details for my recertification of rent. Hoping I don't run into anyone when I leave the safety of my home today.

It's going to be a very long hard day today.

Blue

Thank you OhKay for your support and chatting with me about what happened last night.

I am a nice person, and bullies prey on nice people, so this could explain why I have been signaled out to be bullied.

After the police left, I felt immense relief and the pressure over what was going on was released. However, it has left me deflated/depressed and very sad for myself now. Another grouping of women I experienced extreme drama with that had negative consequences.

Your suggestion, OhKay, helped me with direction as to what to do. I needed that nudge to get things rolling. Before that, I didn't know what in the world was going on with those two nor what to do about it. You are correct, I did not call 911, it was only a welfare check, but I can imagine how their thoughts are swirling this morning. They now know I do not fool around nor will be pushed around as there are consequences for them, legal consequences. I am hoping they will give me a wide berth and leave me alone.

The only remaining issue is that they seem to think it's okay to let her cat go days without food and water, that's pretty telling.

So, sitting here behind closed curtains. My plan is to not accept phone calls, not respond to texts and to stay away from all community activities here. Hoping I can find outside interests soon.

Hoping the Lamictal kicks in soon to help regulate mood.

Blue

I'm sorry that you are feeling so depressed and sad this morning, Blue (((HUGS)))

I think that you have just empowered and released yourself from direct misery though. Some personality types will take advantage of good/kind people. Don't let them draw you back in.

12.5mg is a small dose of Lamictal, and you have just recently started it. I know that meds work differently for you, but it will take some time before you see significant results

Until you can find outside interests, I think that your knitting could be therapeutic.