Thanks Bizi and Donna,
I will follow what you said. I don't feel old.I think the step going up to the hair dresser was the main reason I fell on my guess legs and buttocks. I am going to see if I can get another helper for the end of the week. I can't clean.
Now I am really afraid. My shoulder is finally feeling better. The pain in my lower back is feeling better.
Love
Bobby the wreck

thanks bizi it works

keep trying bobby that is all you can do. glad that you are asking for more help.
I am sorry you are going thru this....
love bizi

all I seem to be doing the pass two or three days is sleeping. my tiredness is making walking much harder. I have been leaning on walls. At least now I don't have to get worried about getting out of the chair. thanks so much!
I have been playing the musical
chess practically all the time. I did take a bath though.
love
bobby

Bobby

I would see if you would qualify for some one to come help you take
some one to help with your bath and things.

This is something that they should be able to do with the need for
your legs and things.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

fight the depression....grab your life by both hands!
love bizi

I think I will call my case worker on Tuesday and see if I can get extra help on thursday or friday. I hold and lean onto the walls a lot, especially when I am getting in and out of the bath. Strangely I am not depressed. I yelled at abby today the first time in her life. I was working hard on papers and I don't have much control over my right hand and some difficulty with left one. She walked on the scanner and was messing up the papers I had worked so hard to arrange. so far the ibs hasn't come back. I am still not taking that new drug but won't tell the doctor in case I change my mind. If the IBS comes back, I will go right back on it. I am not as constipated. I do take suppositories.
You can't believe how athletic I was! It is a joke. I wonder what I am supposed to learn from this. I already had walking and balance problems from the stroke.
Love
bobby

do you have grab bars in the bath/shower stall? they would help you get in and out of the tub safely.
love bizi

i don't want them. with my weight and the walls of the bathroom i don't trust them. they already had to do one tiled wall.
love
bobby

I was horrified when I saw the picture of my youngest nephew who is as big as a whale. I wrote him that I was probably the only one in the family to be honest with him and tell him to go to a diet doctor. I asked if if he wanted to see his children grow up and to see their children. I said it was pathological. I said that I really loved him. The oldest is fat but not like Alex. The middle one is okay.
miles,alex's youngest is chubby even though he plays a lot of sports and is very good at them. their grandfather is very fat but no where near alex.

got a great response from my nephew. He says his family tells him all the time what I told him. He is trying to help himself. I told him he had a very hard childhood with two highly competitive older brothers. The oldest is definitely a self made millionaire but of course with a fantastic education Harvard and the middle one might be a billionaire with great education, Harvard and Harvard MBA. My mother infantilized Alec and thought he was retarded. I used to tell her no but he had those two brothers and was sensitive, He is now doing quite well as a financial analysis and sometimes appears on tv or in printed financial news.

I am so happy that you had a good "conversation" via email.
Glad that he is doing so well.
have a nice day.
love,
bizi

Bobby

Keep encouraging him. Also try asking him if he would go to either
a dietician or a nutritionist. Instead of a diet doctor. Tell him they
will help him learn to eat healthy. Not sure but ask him also if he
has diabetes explaining you are pre-diabetes and have heard its
good to go to a dietician for learning about eating as a diabetic if
you are.

Not saying you should, but that is what I would say to him. I will
say when I first was diagnosed I went for the classes and really enjoyed
them.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

thank you so much. I am thinking of copying and pasting. I did.
fondly
bobby

It finally happened. I slipped while trying to get out of the bathtub and hit my head. so far no headache. I just bought a bath mat for the bathtub.
I am getting scared.

I think I am in a bipolar rage. My nephew always says to stay positive. F@#k him and them, Only their stomachs are Jewish.
I finally mentioned how I don't tell Alice anything negative if I can help it because I am a burden to her but you guys are very rich and are blood and offer nothing.
I am so tired of his saying being positive.
Abby has made her home in the box. I am going to call my case worker and see if she can find one more aide.

if i have another really bad fall soon and die, at least i have enough money to pay back alice.

I am sorry you fell again. yes bath mats help prevent falls.
(((((HUGS)))))
bizi

Bobby

Please talk to her about the medical alert to wear for when you
fall also. For our piece of mind. Think of me as your adopted
daughter. I would really appreciate it.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

you are such a dear. I had my cellphone next to the bathtub.
haven't heard from my nephew but I really needed to speak my mind.
i really don't care if i ever hear from any of them again.
fondly.bobby

I paid off my credit card this month. It was close to 2500. eeks. I am going to try so hard to keep the spending down now.
My head doesn't hurt and Marci gave me a massage yesterday. She said I still have about 8 black and blues on my back.
Haven't heard from my nephew but finally feel relieved after speaking my mind.
Abby is s till sleeping in the box on my bed.

just spent a hundred plus for prescription cat food and 12 weeks of litter from chewy-i can't win

I ordered a used walker and asked the doorman to ask the super if he thought I was too heavy for a bar for the bathroom. I said that once the backwall facing the outdoors fell apart.

Did you hear back from the door man?It should be attached at a stud.
I am so sorry you have that many bruises and still are in pain.
Home health companies can come in and make recommendations for your safety, like little rugs that dont have backs that don't slip, your a great fall risk.i think a physical therapist could give you some advice. Are you eligible for home health? I think you are.
I used to be a home health nurse.
At that time you could need the help of a physical therapist and they would send out an aid to help you with a shower if you needed that.
I hope you are better soon.
love you
bizi

I haven't heard from him. Right now I am nauseated and hurt. I wonder if I suffered from nerve pain too. Occasionally I feel okay but a lot of times like now I feel so dreadful. I am now on the waiting list for an extra helper. I just finished some alka seltzer. I will ask my case worker about home health.
do they give massages? what do they give for nerve damages?
love
bobby

If you have neuropathy in your legs then they can try neurontin. or lyrica or something else celabrex.
I am sorry that you are in pain.my knee is much better, Yesterday I had some electrical impulse in my thigh, that was weird!
have a good day.
love bizi

that was weird. I looked up nerve damage and it didn't fit.
love
bobby
sometimes it is better than other times-that is weird too.

Have you ever tried cymbalta for anxiety because it will help with pain
for things like your talking about too.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

i have never tried it. I will look it up. I don't want to give up my aplenzin and I am back on the vraylar so I don't know if I can also take cymbalta. My doctor said maybe say too many drugs. I think I really want a pain killler.It is lasting too long.
fondly
bobby

Duloxetine normally takes 2 to 4 weeks to work. It may take longer if you're taking it for nerve pain. Common side effects include feeling sick, a dry mouth, headache, constipation and feeling sleepy. These side effects are usually mild and go away after a couple of weeks..

i just wrote my doctor. thanks so much.

hardly slept last night. nervous about having test this morning at the cardiologist. both some apple vinegar cider. read that it might help nerve pain.

hope they will help you!
bizi

Hi! It's been awhile, sorry.

I saw something about you not feeling well/hurting and I hate that you're suffering. I wish I could make it all go away, but unfortunately, I can't. I can and do think good thoughts for you though, and I hope it helps a little knowing that I too care like the others here.
One final thought, I didn't know Apple Cider Vinegar works for pains...I mean, I hope it's working. Is it working?? I hope it does! <3 But I DO know, for me personally, it's great for like heartburn and indigestion. I started doing the 1-2tsps right before a heavy meal for a couple of weeks and then I was good for a long while. Now I only take it once in awhile, and found you can take it AFTER meals too ...which is MUCH better on my stomach and still works. I take it straight up. Yes, it's awful, but I kinda like that feeling. haha

POSSIBLE TRIGGER for some
(side note, I used to drink and drink hard liquor. That being said, this coming New Years, I will be 15 years sober. yay!! :D )

I ordered the acv. I emailed my pyschiatrist if he could give me cymbalta and he wrote back and told me to tell my treating doctor 9which I haven't used)to give me gabapentin.
I sent a message to him and will probably call on Monday for an appointment. I am not depressed but I still in pain,especially when I walk. So many places hurt.
The technician today told me a foolproof diet. only have lunch and dinner and black coffee or tea for breakfast and no snacking in between. He said you will be fasting 16 hours a day.
I am hoping that the loss of weight will lessen the pain when I walk. I really need somebody to lean on when I walk.
what a pathetic situation. My sleeping is so terrible.

I am sorry you are still in this much pain.(((((HUGS))))
do you have a walker, I forget. Your cane doesn't give you enough support, did your 4 prong cane get there yet?


That 16 hour of no eating is tough, it is called IF Intermittent fasting.
The no snacking after dinner is what I could not do.
kind of like grazing, couple of nuts maybe some pop corn, beer or hard seltzer. So I choose not to do the IF.
IT does work for a lot of folks I think it makes sense.
I could do that if I was not drinking. oh I chew alot of gum!
I am sorry your sleeping is so terrible.
my right thigh still hurts so I am not sleeping that great either, got out of bed and took 800mg of advil and rubbed some salon paus on my thigh and I was able to get some more sleep, hard to get comfortable when you are in pain.
(((((HUGS)))))
bizi

i am sorry you are in such pain and you can't escape it through sleep. I am confused what caused it all?. I don't understand but I slept most of the day
and just now I was making tea and my legs didn't hurt! a little and my knee hurts a little but I am so relieved that I couldn't have done serious damage. now I am afraid of the bathtub although I got a big plastic mat. I take baths but maybe I should try a fast shower.
right now I have three canes and the three leg one makes no difference.. i used the walker in the apartment but my apartment is so crowded that when I used the rollator or walker it was an obstacle course. I had chinese food and feel nauseated. complaints complaints.
My nephew it turns out is on the 16 hour fast but I didn't have the nerve to ask if lost weight, I just told him I was proud of him. I have given him so much trouble in the past few days. probably more than in his lifetime. Part of it was my bipolar. His weight did terrify me.
I am going to have tuna and more tea tonight. I guess tea is cheating. I hardly have any food in the house except soup and tuna. I did have two stalks of clelery. I have had music on all day. Ed Sheeran - Perfect Symphony (with Andrea Bocelli) - YouTube Perfect sympathy. I must have played it at least five times today and five times yesterday..
Ed sheenan who I had never heard of and andrea bocelli.
love
bobby and hope you can escape the pain.

dear bobby,
I am glad that your pain is not as pain as before.
tuna fish with a bit of mayo and spices can be a very healthy dinner for you.
please order some more for your self as tuna can get boring real quickly.
but you do need to eat. Having 2 meals a day is hard to follow. Though you can eat to satisfy your palette.

I thought you had a 4 prong cane, that would provide a lot of support.
hugs to you tonight bizi
((((((HUGS))))))

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here is a list of panera stores and they deliver.
bizi

They don't deliver here, so I am not sure they would deliver to you.
sorry.....go to the web site and see if they deliver there, just enter in your address. The link that I provided was a yelp site.

bizi

with the tip and delivery charge I don't spend that much money.
love
bobby

i gained two pounds rats and i feel it.

I stopped weighing myself only about 1 time week. It is too depressing otherwise.
have a nice sunday !
love bizi

hope you have had a nice weekend
love
bobby

I did get some things done, we went to an out door concert The band and winds played. It was nice. Felt great doing something different and hear real live music. most people wore masks. Including the winds and band members wore covers over their bells of the instrument.
love bizi

that is so wonderful. wish I could have come! somebody should have taken a picture. I wonder if we will start getting used to the masks. I have had the music on all day and it is still playing.
Love
bobby