Has anyone lost friends due to being in Chronic pain? I would love to get this off my chest. I stopped contact with 2 friends because of how they treated me because of my pain conditions (RSD + Back pain, sometimes neck/head pain). We were the 3 musketeers. We did EVERYTHING togethor. One friend, Steph, I’ve known since second grade and the other, Kristen, since Freshman year. I’m 37 now. That’s a long time.

I'll get to the point.........they blew me off on 2 vacations.

This was the first vacation, which happened a decade ago. The 3 of us were supposed to go to Mexico. My friend Steph calls me one day asking me if I wanted to go to the Travel agent, with her and our friend Kristen, next week to book it. I said “Absolutely”.

Two weeks later....Steph was driving, I was next to her in the front passenger seat.. Our friend Kristen and this girl Becky were in the back seat. Well, Becky (whom I call Big-mouth-Becky) said something to the effect of “So Step and Kristen you’re going to Mexico next month are you excited???....” I wish I could remember exactly what she said because it was a lot worse then that. There was DEAD SILENCE and we were sitting at a red light. I turned my head and looked at Steph. She looked at Becky in the rear-view mirror and gave her a look like she wanted to STRANGLE her for spilling the beans. No one said a word the entire drive. They knew that I caught them. I wanted to get out of that car so bad. They were going without me. They probably thought that I would ruin their vacation because of my pains. I was perfectly capable to go on a vacation. I NEEDED it more then anything. How on earth can you ditch a friend like that.

The 2nd vacation was to Marti Gras. A bunch of us girls were going. There were 6 or 7 of us. The hotel was booked the day after THAT years Marti Gras. So an entire year passes and it’s now the week BEFORE we were set to go. I was so excited. Well, my wonderful friend Steph calls me. She said what she said so fast that she didn’t even take a breath OR let me get a word in. She says “The hotel called and said that they lost our reservation so we can’t go to Mardi Gras can you believe that? I guess we’re not going bye”...and she hung up. The only word I got in was hello? . HOW ON EARTH can a hotel call and say “We lost your reservation”. Then how did they know we had rooms reserved? How did they get her phone number to CALL her? Again, they thought I was going to ruin their good time. Before we booked the hotel Steph was talking about getting the closest hotel (to where all the action is) in case I needed to leave and go to my room to rest. I never ever asked them to change anything to “accommidate” me.

2 weeks pass and I go to Steph’s place and there are beads everywhere. ….FROM Mari gras. You would think that they would try to cover up the fact that they ditched me.

I’m not comfortable being around them. They don’t know that this is why I havn’t been in contact with them. No facebook chats or messages etc..I haven't seen them in 7 yrs.

I have one TRUE friend named Nina. Actually she's more like a sister. I've known her since she was born....35 yrs. I went on 2 vacations with her (Aruba and Cozumel) so screw em!!! She understands my limitations and has no problem with them.

I struggle weather to tell them or not. I would love an apology and an explanation. I'm to chicken to send them a message. Would you stop contact with people like that?

(Sorry so long...I hope ALL of you are doing well )
Heather