hope yall had fun, we did cooked out, got a little house repairs done not much took it easy, and deb and i walked down the block to this park dark secluded, and i lost her, lol just kidding. and from the angle we could see over the tree line and saw the villages fireworks display,

they were very good this year, they never are, guess enough of us have called and complained, great show, plus from our view a huge wet land behind us, we were surrounded by many others putting on their own displays, it was great we were like kids in a candy shop uhhh look at that one or wow did u that one, had a bit of trouble getting back home but made it, my wingman holding me and helping me walk,

had a couple self pity things, morelike its just not fair to debbie she deserves so much more than what i have to offer, i cant do as much or walk as far and she wants to go here and there nothing unreasonable just wants to get out and have fun and i cant,

i know over doing it with house doesnt help but we have no choice, it has to be done, but debbie deserves so much. i hate this illness, sandy any input on this would be appreciated, PM me please, tk already did her time last week talking me off the edge i feel so dam guilty, and i understand devotion and loyalty but she has had a rough life before me and she deserves to have a peaceful enjoyable time now she has done her part of struggling

weegot5kiz

So you can't dress her in diamonds. Have you ever held one in your hand and noticed how hard and cold those precious gems are towards you? Have you ever tried to have a good give-and-take conversation with one or hear it laugh? You can only give her your warm heart and soul. Sleeping with diamonds doesn't provide any warmth on those cold nights - you do.

So you can't whisk her away on exotic island adventures. Sounds like you had a good time last night, and it sounds like you gave her a very nice memory of the two of you together.

My husband likes to dress me up in waders and throw me into the river. I was never into fishing before I met him, but on our last trip to the river I saw the most beautiful diamonds on the water.

So you can't build her a stone castle. Again, ever been in one of those? Have you ever felt how cold they can be, or notice only plastic fruit was provided for nourishment?

You had a rough day yesterday. I'm sure she cherishes the castle you have built for her.

Frank, I'll be writing you in a bit. Don't you fret. Did you know when Jim was dx'd he tried his darndest to get me to leave him? He tried to be mean to get me to hate him. It didn't work. haha

You are more to your wife than you know.

That's right Sandy

At the age of 24, my best friend found out her cancer was in the 4th stage. She broke it off with her fiance. She told him "You need someone who will give you children and be there for you in your old age."

She wouldn't even let him visit her. She figured it would be better if he were just angry at her, and he'd get over it. It devastated him. It crushed him when she died because he didn't get the chance to show her how much he loved her in her time of need.

You are giving your wife the chance to show you how much she loves you. Be a man - sit back, relax, and enjoy it!

(((Frank))) - What you are going through is not uncommon in a relationship where one partner becomes ill. As the partner, we don't want to burden the other, we feel sorry for them, etc., etc. In our quest to be selfless, we actually become selfish. The other person chose to love us regardless. If the shoe were on the other foot, we would be there 100% for the other person. Sandy is a perfect example of it. You both will get through this.


DD16 wanted so bad to watch the fireworks last night. We had had a monsoon storm a couple of hours before so it was hot and humid last evening. I knew the heat and humidity would get to me. So DD16 walked up to the front of the complex with a chair to watch them. (Frank - pay attention here. LOL). I started to feel bad for her sitting out there by herself and having no one to enjoy the fireworks with. It was selfish of me to not go with her. So I got in the car and drove it up the front of the complex so that I would have the a/c if needed, a place to sit, and a way home if I became too weak. I am so glad I did. It made DD16's night.

The fireworks started late; I'm sure the storm had something to do with it. But what was more amazing was that in the distance there was still lightning. It would light up the clouds in such a beautiful display I got distracted from the fireworks and found myself waiting for the next strike of lightning. I told DD that God was displaying his own fireworks. The combination of the two going at the same time was AMAZING! I wish I brought the camera. We had a great time and she was thankful to have me with her.

Hope you all had a great evening as well yesterday and have a great day today.

((((((((((Frank))))))))))))) hope you are feeling better today,,,,now having said that.....get off you pee pot!!! LOL I'm sure deb would prefer to kick your butt for even suggesting she would have a better life without you. You are a wonderful man as we all can plainly see and anyone is lucky to have you physical abilities or lack there of aside.

We had a great night kids and grown ups all enjoyed the fireworks and the food! And thankfully the weather cleared up and we had a good day!

FRANK

....."In sickness, and in health"......That's true love....Hope you feel better today.

Now, Frank.....what if the shoe was on the other foot? And Deb was the one with MS and she was saying these things? What would you tell her?

I agree with GJ - in sickness and in health.

Frank, I hope your feeling better. I know I have days were I beat myself up and feel totally useless, but hubby reminds me "not to sweat the small stuff" and do what I can. Which is very helpful on days like today where I'm the couch slug.

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Had fun at the party. The fireworks were cool and it was great seeing some friends we haven't seen for awhile. All in all, it was awesome!! Especially since the weather cooperated and it was in the 70s.

Of course it was a bit of a push for me and am paying for it today, but so worth it. Today just doing a little here and there around the house, but have been forgetting stuff here and there too. LOL, I was in the middle of doing some laundry and left the basket in the hallway for about an hour until hubby reminded me.

Hope everyone has a great day!

oh, honey, I sooo know those feelings !!

my sweetie deserves ME, with my love, wit, charm, and everything else...

and it's YOU that Deb loves, and not some fictional perfectly-healthy-guy, who doesn't have your sense of humor, your big ol' heart, and your warm loving arms.

with practice, and patience, I have learned that if I calmly, and nicely SHARE (without being fearful, morbid, or self-pitying) what I am feeling with mi esposo, things go a LOT better.

I'm sorry that I can't go walking, or shopping, or whatever with him all the time, and we just have to (lovingly) ACCEPT my limitations, and WORK with them, baby...

it's all about attitude, dude !!

you can get through the rough times, as long as you keep a GENUINE smile (not a fake long-suffering, poor-me smile plastered over the pain, mind you!) on your face, and in your heart, the love and joy will STAY, and you WILL get through it TOGETHER.

oh, and get a scooter, so you have some "juice" left over... and can still go out together and DO things together.

I know, I know, you don't want to feel so disabled that you NEED a scooter, but I promise you, it makes a HECK of a difference dear !

investigate MS Society or disabled organization's loaner closets, or consider borrowing one, just for those times of need, if insurance won't cover it... use the ones at stores, even if you CAN walk for short distances.

that'll mean you still have the energy to put stuff AWAY when you get home, instead of being half-toast.