Hi again Idealist. I wanted to reply again since when I replied last night I was in a bit of a hurry. Do you see the connection then between how you were treated as a child and how you feel and behave today? Since your parents, for whatever reason, didn't cherish you (and this was due to their problems not due to your true worth and value and what you deserved!) you expect the same from everyone today. This was just something that you have gotten used to and accepted as the truth about yourself but you can question this and change your thoughts about it.

This is a good way to explain this time period and those of us who had to grow up in less than ideal situations. I look back on it now as not such a tradegy because I have escaped its effects and I understand myself and many things in so much more detail now because of it. You can do the same.