i am sorry Mari.

that sounds very frustrating.

i agree with Donna though that it sounds like he really needed to talk.

and yes, now you know that he is anxious/worried about a lot of stuff.

it sounds like he may have some misperceptions about your family dynamics that will need to be corrected in time. it may not be easy because he may not be able to relate to how your family is. that may be why he still doesn't get it, in spite of a lot of exposure.

keep working at it.

if you can have sessions with T on your own, in parallel with the joint sessions, i think that would be helpful. i know it is hard because your T is not that convenient to go to.

i hope that hubby can be more collaborative next time. does he ever write? do you think it would be helpful to ask him - or have T ask him, on the phone, to write down his concerns before the next session.

i am sorry this is so hard for you.

~ waves ~