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Dear BJ,
I'm sorry that you are going through this.
You are in my prayers.

Remember -- if it helps -- that your feelings are perfectly normal. Sometimes it helps to really feel the feelings and focus on them for a little while. Sometimes a better choice is to put them off for a SHORT while until able to face them them.

The woman at the testing place said the wrong thing. But I think in the over all scheme of things she thought that she was reaching out and offering comfort. Maybe it helps you to know that.

BJ, you already know the general part of what the surgeon is going to say, so you don't have to try to anticipate.

In fact the surgeon might have little to say and might refer you to a staff member who can be more helpful.

Feel free to ask losts of questions and make sure the members of the staff know that you will be calling or stopping by with more questions.

M.

Hi BJ,

Please watch this video cited by Mrs D in her post below (from the Nutrition forum). It is all good news, and no bad news. And easy.

hope you're doing ok today.

((( hugs )))

~ waves ~

Thanks waves!

There is also another factor that may help, BJ.

A poster from the "other" board, has breast cancer, and reversed a metastatic finding with this nutritional support:

http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/sh...967#post238967

She is a friend of mine, and can be reached by PM at the "other" board, since she doesn't post here regularly.

The flax oil/cottage cheese intervention is pretty well known, now. Many people use it. You can Google it and find alot more about it. Omega-3 deficiency is implicated in cancer. I had a patient who had breast cancer and took high dose flax oil and came out of the treatments very well. She credits it as very good.

You should ask your doctor if high dose Flax is okay for you. Some doctors may prefer timing it during certain phases of the treatment or recovery.

BJ, i understand the need to have your mom tell you everything will be fine. For the longest time after my mom passed I had the urge for her to comfort me in all my sorrow and pain. Moms are good at comforting.

I feel for you for what you are going through. It's terrifying no doubt. I just said a prayer for you again. Put your right hand on your left shoulder and your left hand on your right shoulder and squeeze. That's me hugging you to let you know I care. Hang in there and remember that there is no right or wrong way to feel.

barbara

Cancer breeds fear and I know that. I’m realizing that my human form is fragile and that life is tenuous at best. It shows us that we seldom have as much control as we think and not having control over our life leaves us anxious.

I’m trying so hard to not let anxiety steal anymore peace or grace from me. I’ve worked so hard for this. I talked to my priest today after mass and he quoted a passage from the bible that says why worry about tomorrow, when tomorrow comes it will have its own troubles to deal with.

I’ve been trying to preoccupy myself and played with Hooper today and worked in my garden. Meaningless tasks I guess unless you are the dog or the garden, but sometimes those moments of meaningless fun are all that we need to get over ourselves and our worries.

But you have no idea how many hours I spent studying for that test. I bet it’s about 150 hours I spent studying and I honestly don’t think I passed it.

I called my tdoc in the wee hours of the morning and told her. She said she’d be here for me 24-7 until I know more. I’m just feeling so overwhelmed and I’ll be glad to go to work tomorrow and not think about it. I’m going on 3 days without very little sleep so I hope I can sleep tonight.

Mrs D I'm not sure I know what you're talking about in the "other" board. But when I see the surgeon on Tuesday I'll ask about the flax oil. Thank you all for all the helpful information. I'm just beginning this journey and I have a lot to learn, a lot to wonder about.

I sent you a PM, BJ.

Dear BJ,

Perhaps the priest is trying to say something similar to what we say on the board -- baby steps -- take one day at a time.

This is a process that will take lots of small steps mixed in with some big steps. You can't really be in a hurry to get it all solved. And you can't really be in a hurry to figure out how you feel about it.

Your feelings might change from one minute to the next and from one day to the next. That is ok.

So be gentle with yourself.

Find ways to nurture yourself.

Keep talking to us here if it helps.

M.

What you described is very much a "living in the moment" concept. Appreciating the present. Sometimes that is excruciatingly difficult to achieve, under stress, in a bipolar episode, or other circumstances such as yours... so i am very happy for you and proud of you that you are able to do that.

Now, spending time with Hooper and your flowers... well, they are living creatures! I hardly see that as insignificant, even in "the big picture" if you will!



I am so glad your pastor knew just how to help, and that you were able to get to a better emotional place.



~ waves ~ wishing you wellness

p.s. on a more technical note, were you able to watch the vit D video, btw?

I sending you good thoughts today.
((((((HUGS))))))
beth