Im glad you vented, it needs to go somewhere.

Family!

Well family is a structure. It has been a certain way for a long time.
Now you have a new situation.
Your family cannot accept it.

No wonder, if it is you that has been going to work and not your husband, you obviously to some degree are leant upon by all members of your family.

They need educating, but this is not easy.

Its like trying to explain colour to a blind man.
They may get it in time but it will be the way they see it not how you want them to see your pain.

Be strong.

Give this time, give them time to adjust to your new diagnosis.

You have my sympathy, which is currently what you need.

Use the drugs to control pain and not thoughts.

You are normal wanting and needing attention and love.

A meal time is the best time to talk to anyone.

If they will not listen then ask them to watch something about your condition or read something.

It will not make a difference tho until they see you, accepting the way things are and doing your absolute best to adjust.

Take care.