hey Jenn - the sun is shining here now too - finally the wind is down and it's actually nice to have the windows and door open for fresh air! just so I don't start cooking in here, I'll be okay ..

did I tell you that I was asked to paint a sign for the American Legion ($400) .. will start that after the Memorial weekend ..

finished a Packer table runner ... yes, I'm getting projects DONE and trying not to start new ones ... will be sending this one out by the end of the week - I'll get pix on my camera ... almost done to bring it in for processing .. someday, a digital for you guys! LOL

Sandy - thought of you yesterday as I picked up the 3rd (or 4th) season of HOUSE ... so, while sewing yesterday - it was a marathon HOUSE day/night ...

now... to go to school and keep that going!

Daily Insults...rotflmao!!!

sandy, do you know if there is a woman's club on the base where renee is at?

there was a very active and supportive one in san antonio where a friend of mine's X husband was stationed. they were the only she help she got when he pulled the same kind of crappola.

I don't know Curious. I am floored at how they are blowing her off. They said he didn't lie and was honest to his command. That is not true, she has the note left on her fridge to prove it. The only thing is he typed it so they could say he didn't do it. I hate what she is going through and his command seems like the type that wants to protect the soldier rather than be fair. She did speak to a Colonel who is in another command and he said they forced a soldier back home when he pulled that. I wonder if this Colonel is on her caller ID? He could jump command and/or get involved possibly.

Renee- Still keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. Hang in there.

Suzy - That is too funny.

Sandy - Glad things are starting to look up for you all.

Vonn - I seriously don't know how you keep all these projects straight. As you know I have been doing a lot of painting. I have all these designs and ideas running around my head like crazy. But I force myself to slow down and only do one at a time. I think it is great that you can do all of that and admire that greatly about you.

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I think we're in for another hot one today. YUCK! There were parts of the desert that were around 113 yesterday!!!:eek: They are predicting a very hot summer and I am not thrilled with that prospect. The weakness, spasms, and fatigue has increased a lot over the past few days and it is all due to the heat. :mad::(

So, today I am going to stay inside as much as possible. I went to sit outside for my 15 minutes of vitamin D, coffee, and prayer time and couldn't tolerate it; had to come back inside after what, maybe 2 minutes.

Tricia .. thanks .. but, unless I have 5-10 projects going at the same time - I'll get bored!

I break up my day into hour segments ... probably how I 'blew out my stress brain cell' with my MS! LOL

now, I get to work on the things I like to do, paint, quilt, school and making things for others ... that's what all life is all about, right??

remember, I have no kids, no family ... just me - so I have to make it on my own the best I can, and I'm making it up like I did before MS .. but NOW I have a doctor's excuse! LOL

Tricia - I don't know how you tolerate that heat! If it gets above 85 degrees here I just fall apart. But, our air is so humid and yours is a dry heat, right?:rolleyes: To me - heat is heat - but I know humidity makes it worse.

We're supposed to get thunderstorms here this afternoon. Maybe that will cool things off. It's in the high 80's today. I know that doesn't compare to 115, though!!

My son just called - he's working today and they had a high speed car chase and the four occupants bailed out and ran in opposite directions. They caught all but one of them - Matt said he had to chase one guy through a briar patch and now he has cuts all over his arms. I told him just let me have five minutes alone with that guy in a small room and he'll never think of breaking the law again!! :p

Renee - I keep you in my thoughts and prayers every day. I just hate it that this has happened to you and your kids. Hang in there.

Vonn - can I have a little of your energy??

I just realized that this upcoming weekend is a holiday weekend. Anyone have any plans? :)

to: email-master ... please send ENERGY to Kelly ASAP ...


**sending ENERGY to Kelly**

Kelly - ENERGY is knocking at your door!

Kelly - It is a dry heat and it does make a difference. The sweat evaporates before it gets to your pores. LOL. 8% humidity. I would take the dry heat over the humidity any day. I don't think I can tolerate the humidity that you have. During our monsoon season it does get humid before and after the rains hit and it is horrible.

However, it is a blazing heat. Meaning, there is very little shade. The sun just blares on you making it seem even hotter.

Hey Vonn, can I get some of that energy too? I know it is "renewalable" and you can generate some more. LOL.

You also have an awesome attitude about doing things for others. I have been doing my paintings for others. Heck, you would think my walls would be full of paintings but, they're plain and white. LOL. It makes me feel so good to do things for others like that so I can totally related.

to: email-master :: DITTO last message to Tricia!

**sending ENERGY to Tricia!**

Tricia - ENERGY is at your door too ... it travels as the speed of light!

Tricia - me too ... I have none of my own quilts .. everytime I make something that I like, I think of someone to give it to ... and away it goes - same as for my artwork ... my tin-condo is filled with, uh - stuff from goodwill, rummage sales and things from friends!

FinLady, Thanks for nice wishes for our camping trip this memorial day http://bestsmileys.com/usa1/3.gif
weekend. Yeah, ICK. Does your hubby go outa town much?
I live in Ohio too. I'm in Toledo are you in FINdlay?

Lor - You are going to have a great time. I have been wanting a pop up camper for a long time. They are a great way to go camping. We either rough camp or take the motorhome.

Sorry DH has to go away on the business trip. I know you will miss him. Feel free to hang here with us during that time (and after). We'll help you through it.:hug::hug:

As Sandy stated I am not getting help from my husbands command, or anyone for that matter, I have been to his superior officers, the family support counselor, the legal office, and the chaplain. I also found out today that the military will NOT ship my belongings to me like my husband said they said they only do that if you divorce while overseas. So now had to borrow money from my stepdads father to get a uhaul. I am supposed to hear from my attorney herself today it is 4 PM her time and I haven't yet apparently my husbands attorney is fighting like hell not to get a continuance in our case...probably because my husband only has leave until June 15th and doesn't want to have to come back here and face me. Oh did I forget to say that after all this crap he wants me to pay his legal fees too?

(((Renee))) I am so sorry. I will pray that your lawyer will fight like he11 for you! And hey, he left you and filed for divorce so he should pay for your legal fees as well as child support and spousal support as you are unable to work.

Hang in there and know that we are all praying for you and are here to support you.:grouphug:

Renee, Sorry to hear your are having such a difficult time dealing with the military bureaucracy. I hope you have a decent attorney because TK is right about legal costs and child support. Spousal support can be trickier these days, but you should be able to get it at least for a certain period of time.

TK -- I did not know your name was Tricia. Kelly outed you.:) Hope you get some relief from the heat. It is still cool and dreary here.

Suzy -- that was really funny! I never thanked you for the postcard from Nashville. So:sorry: THANK YOU!!!

I hit enter before I was done.:o

Kelly, I am still waiting for my postcard from Georgia.:D Just kidding!

I had my pulmonary function test today and it went ok. They wanted me to get a 90% and I kept getting a 89% and they then decided that was good enough because all of my other numbers looked okay. That is, unless my doctor decides differently.

Lor and Fin -- did I ever mention I am originally from Ohio? (eastern )-- about 45 miles from Youngstown and 50 miles from Pittsburgh, PA. I went to Kent State.

Gosh, Renee, what a slimeball he's turning out to be. He can ask for anything he wants - whether he gets it or not will be up to the courts...and I cannot imagine any judge in their right mind awarding him court costs. He's filing against you for Pete sake! If anything he should pay for yours. And I imagine he'll have to pay child support and spousal support (at least for a period of time).

I PM'ed you earlier today - not sure if you've seen it or not - but I'll help in any way I can. I'm really sorry this is happening to you. Keep your head up - and don't resort to his style of doing things 'cause he will reap what he sows.

Renee, you have got to be kidding me!!!! :mad: :ranting: Who does he think he is???? HE IS ASKING YOU TO PAY THE LEGAL FEES?

That man has lost his God given mind for sure! :ranting: :mad:

That is true Barb. But it may work in your favor with SSDI Renee. More than likely you will have to go to a voc rehab counselor who will run a series of tests including a neuropsych test. From this the voc rehab counselor can fight on your behalf not only for spousal support but for SSDI as well.

Renee - There is something so wrong with this guy. I cannot stop shaking my head. I wish there was more than sympathy that I could offer.

My DH and I got back from Long Island late yesterday after a 4 day trip.

We went to see my son graduate from Hofstra University. DH had flight miles for two free tickets and enough points for the hotel as well. We got a handicapped room, really nice to have a walk-in shower.

Weather was crazy fun. Pouring rain for the ENTIRE ceremony, rain ponchos passed out. Stupid Arizona us...we did not know that even with umbrellas, the ponchos would have been good to have as well.:rolleyes:

So, I am trying to recover from the long day of travel back to AZ. Plus, the weather is too hot. Phoenix hit 110 degrees on the day we came home.:cool:

Sure was nice to be in NY for a few days.

hiya dudes and dudettes.

just poppin' in quick-like to say hello, between nap-time and chore-time...

on my way over to Olivia's thread to show her some more animal babies 'n' stuff.

company came this mornin' from the US... they're building a house three villages over, and wanted to meet our contractor...

I took them on a tour, and am now so tired I want more NAPPY !!

love to all !!

:hug::grouphug::hug:

A tour of your house wore you out? What ya do, build the Taj Mahal? LOL.

I hope you get a least a rest in Kay! Company sometimes can be so exhausting.

nah, Trish... it was a tour of the six acre farm... the whole shebang !!

first, walk to the goat acre to see Leeloo, Lila, and Leto.

then over to the pond to see Gandalf, Glinda, Gwynneth, Larry, Curly, Moe, and Connor swimming.

then, to the nursery, to see the new ducklings, the ducks hatching chickens, and the dozens and dozens of incubator-hatched chicken babies running around.

then, over to the pig acre, to see Miss Piggy, aka: Becky Bacon.

then, to the palapa, and the guinea cages to see all the new babies and mamas, and over to bunny hutches to see Brad, Janet, RiffRaff, Columbia, Magenta, Frank, and Furter...

then, off to see the cistern, the rain-catchement gutters, pipes, the holding tanks, the pumps, the filters, solar water-heater tank and system, the composting hutch, and the composting toilet, and all that boring stuff.

then, to the chicken coops to see the nest boxes, and the chickens.

then, brunch and chatting and a lovely visit (sitting DOWN, YAY !!)

:D:rolleyes::D

Oh Good Lord! You wore me out by time you got to. . . "first, walk to the goat acre to see Leeloo, Lila, and Leto." Lol.

Take it easy tonight so that you have the energy for more adventures tomorrow.

BTW - I love the pics on the Wok, Wok thread as well as all the names you give your little guys and gals.

tomorrow, I sleep ALL day, Trish, honey !!

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and NaeNae, I'm still thinking about you, and praying for you and your children...

as I recall, even though I was on SSDI, when my ex sued for custody of our son, his ATTORNEY added in that BS about me having to pay HIS attorney's fees,

I nearly blew a friggin' GASKET over that one !!

that's the modus operandi (mode of operation) of some hostile divorce attorneys...

the more ACRIMONY they create, the more paperwork and motions and hearings and STUFF, the LONGER it goes on, the HIGHER their FEES are...

it's like squeezing blood from a TURNIP when both parties are low to moderate income.

but I just wanted you to know, it's become standard boilerplate carp in the filings of some attorneys, and your soon-to-be-ex may not even have KNOWN that carp was IN there, or allowed it after being talked into it...

the judge will see through this, and disallow it, I promise.

most judges are smart, and I pray you get a good one, dear.

love, K

Good morning all :) Wow, I missed a lot yesterday! :eek: I got my hair cut and went grochery shopping. cooked dinner and then I was done.

Gonna try and get some more mulch today to I can work on the yard some more before the warmup for the holiday. Also gonna stop by the Y to join so I can start doing some exercise.

But first, need that coffee :D

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Renee, :hug: Sorry your getting the run around and little help from the base. Grrr. That makes me a little upset. As to the legal fee thing, it seems to be standard procedure from my experience with friends going through divorce, but it is very rarely granted to the one who filed unless there is proof of infidelity or such caused by the other spouse.

Lor, LOL. Not in findlay. I'm close to Columbus area. The "fin" actually stands for Finance. It's an old user name from college which is easy for me to remember.

Barb, My BBA in Finance is from Kent State University. :) My hubby and I met at another college, got in a car accident which caused us to drop out, and then we got married. Then I went back to school.

Vonn, Glad you are keeping busy and doing well in school.

Sandy, My docs' scales are always kinder than mine own, and I go by what they say too. LOL.

Kay, LOL. You made me tired too. Hope you got a chance to rest from showing your farm off.

Good morning everyone! I hope to have a busy day today as long as the heat doesn't get to me. This morning I have to do all my errands within an hour or so before it gets too hot.

#1 is to get a windshield visor for my car to block the sun out. It gets dang hot in there without it and it takes the a/c in the car longer to cool it down. While my complex has covered parking it is reserved for those in the townhouses.:( Last year I was able to park under there after getting a dr's note. But they changed everything to assigned parking spaces for the people in the townhouses.:mad:

Of course I have this huge roll of canvas and can probably make my own. Hmmm, now I'm thinking . . . LOL.

I hope you all have a great day!

Just thought I would say good morning to everyone! The sun is shining here so it looks like we may finally have a nice day.

fin -- Do you ever go shopping in Polaris? I sometimes stay there overnight (Hilton Garden Inn) when I am driving back to see family. Although I probably could only handle a few stores in the mall these days before I would "poop" out. I really like the chinese restaurant at that mall. I can't remember the name right now.

Kay -- Hope you are really getting some rest today.

TK -- Sun visors are a must. Somone also told me that in the sporting goods section at WAl Mart they are selling some kind of bandana thing that you can get wet and then it stays cool all day. Might help you a little with the heat. Do you have a cooling vest? I am going to go see if my local Wal Mart has them (the bandana thing) in a little while.

Renee -- Just wanted to ket you know that I am still thinking about you and your kids.

Sandy -- My doctors scales always weigh me less than my own too. Now if they only weighed me about 50 pounds less:winky: I read your post on the endoscopy thread. I have dealt with all of the same issues. I had to go on nexium too after being on steriods last spring. The prilosec just was not working.

I lost 45 pounds last fall/spring (was not hungry during flare) and have gained 35 of it back since the fall. I am blaming neurontin. I got my appetitie back when I went on it. I always feel hungry even though I know I can't be. However, I know it is my fault too. I need to cut down on portions and make better choices. I don't really want to stop taking the neurontin since it does seem to help me.

Frank -- if you are reading this, I hope that you are feeling better and taking care of yourself.

Well as my husband will not accept my calls, I had an idea,the chaplain I talked to yesterday was lovely all though there wasn't alot he could do, but I talked to him again this morning and he is going to call andrews supervisor and get Andrews number where he is staying and HE is going to call and talk to him. Wish me luck!

Renee,

I am so sorry you are going through this. I'm glad you were able to talk to the chaplain. I think it is good that the chaplain is going to get involved and try to talk to your husband.

It's unbelievable how he can act the way he has. He should be ashamed of himself and maybe he will see that when the chaplain talks to him. If he doesn't see it, then he's not much of a man.

He needs to grow up and take care of his wife and children. If he wants a divorce, he should have the guts to do the right thing. That is all he needs to do is the "right thing".

I am sure the military will make him pay his debts by court order. Just keep plugging away until you get the right person to help you with all of this.

Bless your heart. I'm thinking of you and your kids and I am praying for you. Things are tough right now but they will get better.

My son's father left us in 1972 with nothing. My son was 2 years old and I was 21 years old. He just walked out with the car and all our money and I found out he moved to another state.

I scraped up the money to divorce him and he came back crying and begging for forgiveness. He wouldn't sign the papers so we published it in the law journal and it was done without his signature. I forgave him but didn't take him back. He never did the right thing and hasn't seen his son in 35 years and never paid a penny child support. I raised my son without financial or emotional assistance from anyone and it was tough but I did it.

I wish you all the luck in the world.:hug::hug:

Renee, that's great that he's going to get them to call your husband. I still can't imagine why they think he was honest. Hopefully this chaplain can speak with him and make him realize that what he has done was so wrong.

wishing you the best of luck. I keep checking for your updates as I
think of you often. Take care of yourself Renee and those cuties you
have too.

:hug::hug:

Renee, I just thought of an idea. Since you are getting nowhere with the base, why not let your mom and some of your friends (hint hint) call and be witness to what has happened to back your story up? I know this has happened before in the military where family and friends called the command to verify what has happened. Maybe it wont go anywhere but it would cause Andrew verbal anguish when he gets back and cause his command to take notice that maybe he did lie.

I think that's a great idea, Sandy. Hang in there, Renee. :hug:

Renee, HUGSSSSSSSSS and more HUGSSSSS, just peeking in and realized what you are going thru....sorry for the awful times....hugsssss and good wishes to you and the kids...sarah

Barb, Finny, Sandy, Trish, I promise I am resting.

however... I got woken up by thick clouds of choking smoke...

they're doing a "controlled burn" downwind of me and I'm ready to bail outta here for the afternoon...

but I can't WALK far enough to get away from the pall of smoke, and mi esposo is gone on a shopping expedition.

:(

Kay, Yuck!:eek::eek::eek:

Thanks for the update Renee. Wishing you luck and still continuing to keep you all in my prayers.

Kay - UGH!!! Sorry about the controlled burn as well as the fact that you are having difficulty walking. Not very restful is it?:( Maybe when DH gets home he can take you out of there!