Hey Robert
First I want to offer my sympathies for your physical and emotional pain.
My name is Sarah and I am an alcoholic/addict in recovery. I am also a suicide survivor and my whole family is alcoholic, not in recovery. Suicide is an awful disease of the mind and i would recommend talking to ur doctor about it bc there hav been revolutionary meds for depression that could help u. Most ppl w/ RSD tend to become depressed, but believe me, depression only makes the pain worst.
When I tried to take my life in Aug. of 04, I realized the impact suicide has on ur loved ones. Bc of that experience, everytime I think of suicide now a days, I quickly put it out of my mind. I was only 16 at the time and quickly got myself into recovery. Plz feel free to PM me about your issues, bc i have been there and know how it hurts...
As far as ur wife, you may want to look into finding an Al-Anon meeting in your area. Al-Anon is a group for friends and families of alcoholics. The group helps you to learn more about the disease and how to deal w/ it in your home. It also helps you by giving you a strong support system to lean on. If u just google Al-Anon, u'll find a good meeting place. You also may want to pick up a copy of Alcoholics Anonymous to help u to learn about the disease. I'm sure u can find it at any half priced book store and they aren't expensive.
I currently live in an alcoholic home w/ 4 of them not currently in recovery, and I know how hard it can get to deal w/ it. Sometimes I just need to step out of the house just to get away from their sickness.
REALLY, I have been in ur hurt and can offer advice, support, or just an ear to listen to what u are going thru. This forum is a great place to vent or just ask questions, I have found, and we are all in this fight together!
Sarah
God Bless u!